Would you go on a holiday with a man you had known for 3 weeks?

[babycham75]

A couple of months ago I was seeing, as I know now, a love bombing narcissist.
Completely overwhelmed me. Thought I had found the one.
Then it began to change - he would regularly tell me things I needed to "work on" in my personality and to cut a long story short, I had to just cut him off as he became so obsessed.

Anyway, I have discovered today that he has gone on holiday to Dubai with a girl he has known for three weeks. I know it's nothing to do with me but I wouldn't even consider going away with someone I'd known for such a short while.
He's been married twice before, both of them he said "it all happened so quickly".
Can't help but wonder if this is a pattern for him?
Would be interested in hearing about similar experiences.

I wouldn't...but how do you really know they've only known each other for 3 weeks?

Also wondering how you know it's only been 3 weeks. I would no but I imagine you will meet women who would if it was all expenses paid. My ex moved someone in he met once so people do all sorts of crazy things.

From someone equally concerned!

Wouldnt* not would!

Whats to be concerned about? I'm taking it there both adults?

Obviously they are both adults.
I just don't like to think of another unsuspecting woman caught up in the games he played.

I think you're a bit over invested OP.

My lovebombing narcissist asked me to marry him after only 3 months together. It's how they work. 15 years later I am still trying to leave the fucker. If only Mumsnet had been around when we met...

Just be glad you have seen sense. Unfortunately the poor woman will have to see for herself.
Even if you gave her proof of his twatism she wouldn't believe you.

I would and I did and it was also only 3 weeks after meeting. It was only a long weekend so maybe not such a gamble.

Nine years later we're still together.

My DH asked me to go on holiday with him about 3 weeks after we met to the US. I didn't go, felt too short notice to me, but if they are both happy, why not.

Dubai is a very safe place as well.

No

No but tbh, I’m more concerned that you’re still interested in what he’s up to. You can’t have just “discovered” this, you must have deliberately found it out on Facebook or asked someone or something. You haven’t let him go yet and you need to.

As I said, he's taken great delight in telling me what he's doing.

I did, well, it was actually four weeks. Been married 15 years this year.

Why you still in contact? You only knew him a couple of months no need to still be in contact and there's nothing to say he will treat her the same way he treated you.

Why do you care ?

Why aren't you no contact?

Why don't you just block him and move on. Not your problem unless you make it.

Yep, I booked a two week holiday with someone I hardly knew. It was a nightmare, I soon realised he wasn't for me.

Of course it’s a pattern for him, he’s a narcissist.
I’m curious as to why you are still so invested though- block him and move on.
And yeah, I would probably consider going away with someone after that period of time- if I was really into them. There are crazier things to do as an adult than go on holiday with someone you fancy.

I blocked my lovebomber ex

I couldn't give a flying fuck where he is or who he's with

Not Dubai. Paris maybe but it's close/not a despotic developing nation.

why do you care? For some - it works, for some not. Ive done it - married the same man. 14 years on we have two children together...