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DP talks to himself...

20 replies

MadeForIt · 28/04/2007 21:56

He's Jamaican and apparently this is normal in that culture, I am yet to have this confirmed... I can't remember when i first noticed he had this habit but after 5 years, it is REALLY grating on me.

Its like this low rumble of thunder from the other room, usually incorparating a Ja'can swear word like bumboclaaat or raaaasclaaat (or any other variant ending in claaat.) He can be talking to himself about anything, usually having a winge, and quite often about me or something I have done.

I have tried asking him not to do it but he seems to think that that is asking too much since it is a habit of a lifetime. I also sometimes confront him about what he has said and he will deny it! I have also tried to tell him that in England, it is a sign of maddness to talk to yourself but he finds this funny because in Jamaica they have a joke about the English being mental.

I'm really at the end of my tether with it. Any suggestions other than divorce????

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controlfreaky2 · 28/04/2007 21:57

duct tape?

colditz · 28/04/2007 21:58

I talk to myself too. Ask him not to talk about you as it's rude, but other than that, it is a habit, and he's unlikely to stop it.

LilyLoo · 28/04/2007 21:58

I think it may be a cese of him letting off steam. My DP does it but under his breath he isn't actually aware of it but at least he can let off without an argument.

LynetteScavo · 28/04/2007 22:00

I don't know how much time you spend on MN, but I'm suprised my DH hasn't started talking to himself yet!

LynetteScavo · 28/04/2007 22:00

My mother does it, especially when she's cooking. I think it's nerves.

MadeForIt · 28/04/2007 22:00

lol to duct tape!!!

Yes i think it is letting off steam but like you say, doing it about other people is rude!

He's sending me mental!!!

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WigWamBam · 28/04/2007 22:01

I talk to myself too. And it has nothing to do with my mental state!

I think you just have to relax about it a bit ...

LynetteScavo · 28/04/2007 22:03

Don't do it in the street. You'll get funny looks.

tiredemma · 28/04/2007 22:03

Im always talking to myself, I dont shout out offensive words, but do converse with myself

For example- I found myself outside Dune shoe shop the other day- lookin at the most lovely pair of shoes and said-
" oh- they are beautiful"

a voice next to me said "which ones??" woman must have thought I was odd.

is it really a problem???

MadeForIt · 28/04/2007 22:03

i do try wig wam, i suppose its worse after a disagreement. I think he actually does it all the more then cos he knows it winds me up!

I tried doing it for a while but it didnt become me. Altho it was a nice release!

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colditz · 28/04/2007 22:04

I do it especially aftwer a row with someone, or before a job interview etc.

LilyLoo · 28/04/2007 22:05

Maybe he unaware he doing it. Don't think he would do it too purposely wind you up would he

MadeForIt · 28/04/2007 22:05

lol tired emma, I think thats having children! Am always talking in great detail about things to DD whilst shopping! Shes only 2.

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MadeForIt · 28/04/2007 22:06

I don't know lily loo, altho he should be aware, ive flagged it up enough times!

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LynetteScavo · 28/04/2007 22:10

People in shops have always thought me odd for talking to my DC's(in a normal way rather than motherese) when they were babies.

sallyheartshapedstrawberry · 28/04/2007 22:13

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divastrop · 28/04/2007 22:14

my dp often mutters under his breath about me when ive annoyed him in some way..i do the same with him.i agree that its a good way of letting off steam without having a blazing row

i also talk to my dd3 when im pushing her in her pushchair.shes only 7 weeks old

MadeForIt · 28/04/2007 22:22

You've all been very easy on him! I was very close to throttling him!

Posting and reading your replies, has made me realise that it is completely normal and now i feel a little calmer! thank u!!!x

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KerryMum · 28/04/2007 22:24

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jalopy · 29/04/2007 17:22

Tape his rantings and play it back to him. See what he thinks.

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