First time poster - hope you can give me some advice.
Nearly 2 years out of a long marriage to a lying/cheating/narc. I'm mid to late 40's (relevant). Have had a few dates over last 12 months but hadn't met anyone I felt like i could develop a proper relationship with again until 3 months ago.
Started chatting to a guy who said he was 6 years older than me. It's often difficult to say how old men are so I thought he looked a bit older but took it on good faith.
We chatted a lot, seem to have lots in common, got on well but I'm wary after narc ex and love bombing when we first met.
I had a couple of times recently thought that he might be a bit older because of other facts.
He's admitted tonight he's 14 years older than me so 7 years more than he'd told me. Told me he knew he should have told me sooner but was falling for me, was scared that I might tell him to leave etc etc.
I have reasons for being strongly against large age gap relationships. More than this though, having been in a relationship with someone who I now know constantly lied to me I have a real need for honesty.
Don't know whether I can get past this dishonesty. Don't know whether I want to as age difference starts to make a big impact with ill health in later life, etc.
What do I do?