Confused re relationship with husband

[clearpaleblue]

Every day I feel I am subtly put down and sometimes not so subtly too. If I mention I am interested in something he puts it down. He goes on and on about things being a mess (we have preschool children) he gets really stressed about mess.

Sometimes I feel I want to leave but can't. So sad as I used to feel so happy round him now I'm just on edge.

He's a knob
Why can't you leave him?

Does he clean up the mess or is that only your job?

Be happy on your own with the freedom to find someone else if you like ??

Well these are the bad things but there are good things too. I just feel tired of resisting him sometimes.

@clearpaleblue

How long have you been together?

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

Why do you feel you cannot leave?. If you can express your fears as to why, this may help you as well.

He may well be "nice" sometimes but the nice/nasty cycle that plays out in an abusive relationship is a continuous one.

What do you want to teach your children about relationships and what are they learning here from the two of you?.

Womens Aid are well worth contacting on 0808 2000 247

His actions towards you as well have been deliberate throughout; his intentions were always to put you down, put you on edge and make you feel rubbish. He does this because he can and this works for him. If you were to look at his parents you would probably find that one of them behaves like this as well.

This is no life for you or your children; they certainly cannot grow up thinking that yes, this is how men do treat women.