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Would like to get this off my chest

48 replies

Terabithia · 27/01/2018 15:48

Hello everyone, I feel like typing this out might help me to sort out my head!

Last night I went to a party, it was held at the same venue where I got married last September. It was a very surreal evening.

Firstly, a girl I barely know asked me to give her a lift - I didn't feel I could say 'no', so I picked her up and she promptly asked me to drive her to the town a couple of miles away to use a cashpoint. When we got to the party, she was very overfamiliar with me and so clingy. Today she keeps messaging me.

Secondly, a man I've met a couple of times before (I'll call him 'C' - he's single) was at the party too. There is a definite 'spark' between us, which was still evident last night - but I'm newly married, love my husband and don't want to do anything to jeopardise my marriage.

I was sitting talking to him, when a woman I later found out works as a professional Medium came over to us and said we were a lovely couple, and she could feel we were connected and 'soulmates'. We told her we weren't a couple, and that I was married - and she looked devastated. She said we were meant to be together and that at some point we would be, but that we should be careful. She was talking for ages along those lines. I'm a sceptic when it comes to Mediums - but either through genuine intuition or very good guesswork she came very close to the mark on many things I'd been thinking.

After the party, C left at the same time as I did and we found somewhere quiet to talk. I was very clear that although I was attracted to him, I wouldn't do anything to jeopardise my marriage. We had a hug - perhaps a little too long - and then a peck on the cheek, and went our separate ways.

This morning I found a picture he'd taken of us both last night, and I can't stop looking at it. I feel sad, happy, guilty, excited, upset... all at the same time and don't know what to do. :(

OP posts:
TheBrilliantMistake · 27/01/2018 16:53

I think I might be a medium in the making...

caresses his crystal balls

I see much trouble ahead.
I see gullible woman enjoying male company and confusing it for romance.
I see a man in the hazy distance, a partner, a husband, hurt, upset, angry.

I see no future in being a medium ;-)

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 27/01/2018 16:57

Crystal balls Rofl Grin

Boatsonthewater · 27/01/2018 16:57

You really sound incredibly immature. I pity your husband really.

Thebluedog · 27/01/2018 17:02

It’s completely normal to dc n other people attractive that is t your partner, enjoy it for what it is and stay the fuck away from him.

Just think how you’d feel if your dh came home and said the same to you, and that he’s also gone for a quiet chat and hugged another woman?

AnyFucker · 27/01/2018 17:07

I sometimes have dreams like that too. Proper silly surreal stuff.

Emmageddon · 27/01/2018 17:24

A professional medium is no more qualified than an amateur medium. The only difference is the former fleeces people for money.

What has the over-familiar girl got to do with this whole shenaigans?

And the photo of you and your party flirt, did he send it to you?

TheBrilliantMistake · 27/01/2018 17:36

Hold on a minute... just re-read this...

You told him you were attracted but not interested in taking it further, but then hugged for too long with a little peck on the cheek? I'm not sure I would hug in that situation, and a peck on the cheek, definitely not. That's more like 'I'm really resisting the urge to go further but let me play hard to get a while longer' material to me.

Then, you 'found' a photo he'd taken of you both. So you were posing together for a selfie. That's not a chat. Then you 'found' it? - how, by searching social media to see if he'd posted it online? You don't 'find' something he'd sent to you, so it suggests you went looking. You might have just stumbled across it via mutual friends, but somehow my intuition says not.

Is this a wind up?

coffeeX10 · 27/01/2018 17:37

So confused about the first part of your thread with the over familiar girl, what do you mean and what does it have to do with your post? That bit also makes you sound very young by saying girl it makes me think of a 17yo.

Stay away from C it was just a flirt, as per previous posters it’s normal to be attracted to other people. Not so normal to tell them you fancy them tho, imagine how you’d feel if your husband had stayed in the company of another lady one evening and told her how much he fancied her!!

Lemonnaise · 27/01/2018 17:56

So C knows you're married...but yet you say you had a long chat and YOU said you didn't want to ruin your marriage...was he 'up for something' ?

Even if you left your marriage, you would be with someone who goes for married women, good luck with that.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 27/01/2018 18:03

Give your head a wobble woman. "Medium" was looking for easy pickings. C needs fucking off toot bloody suite. If you love your husband, stop dicking about. If you don't then leave him, but not for this chancer.

GinIsIn · 27/01/2018 18:36

OP do you have a time machine? In threads earlier this year you’d been with your partner ‘nearly 5 years’.... Hmm

RedWineAllMine · 27/01/2018 19:00

You mentioned not wanting to do anything to "jeopardise your marriage" twice in your statement. You had to repeat it - This means you had to double convince yourself that that statement is true/could happen.
Meaning if you continue your thoughts with man C, you could infact be jeopardising your marriage. As these thoughts can quiet easily escalate into actions which you think aren't major at the time, but all piece together like a jigsaw puzzle, each act leads onto another etc.
So, my advice is if you seriously don't want to jeopardise your marriage then you need to put a stop to your thoughts on man C immediately! You haven't done anything wrong, but these feelings can quite easily escalate.

callmebriansella · 27/01/2018 19:04

Leave your DH.

He deserves better than a 45 year old who believes a medium told her she was ‘soulmates’ with another man and hugged him for ‘possibly too long.’

Emmageddon · 27/01/2018 19:14

Whether you've been with DH for 11 years or 5 years, you've had your head turned by another man, who, according to a professional medium, is your soulmate. As you've been married such a short time, tell DH you've made a mistake, and get the marriage annulled if you can. Separate regardless, and pursue a relationship with C. See if the medium was right. bet she wasn't

AnyFucker · 27/01/2018 19:16

It's a pile of horseshit

About as real as my dream about Tiny Tom Cruise mowing my lawn in his Tiny Shorts

TheBrilliantMistake · 27/01/2018 19:23

How come the medium didn't know you were married to someone else?

Angelf1sh · 27/01/2018 19:34

What even is this post? Are you drunk op? What has the lift to the cash point got to do with any of this? She can’t have been that clingy if she left you alone long enough to have these emotional epiphanies with some random bloke and a medium.

DotCottonDotCom · 27/01/2018 19:57

your poor OH

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 27/01/2018 20:12

It's not boding well for your marriage if you're having these types of discussions a few months after getting married.

Haffiana · 27/01/2018 20:31

How come the medium didn't know you were married to someone else?
Grin Grin

pickleofficer · 29/01/2018 02:47
Biscuit
IllHaveALargeGlassOfRed · 29/01/2018 07:28

I want to know what happened to the overly familiar girl! That's the only interesting part of this story Grin

FizzyGreenWater · 29/01/2018 07:55

'A medium told me to do it'

😂😂😂😂

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