AIBU

[stressedouttothemax]

Last week my partner and I had an argument which lead to him telling me to go stay at my mums for a few days with our 2mo lb. I stayed for a few days but now I'm back I feel totally unhappy and don't want to be here.
We've had a history of abuse, although he'd never be violent to our DS he has grabbed and choked me before. I regret coming back but don't want to be hurt again. Wwyd?

I would leave!! Can you go back to your mum's?

Please don't accept this because you' owe it to your dc 'to make it work. Your dc is better off with a dm on her own than a battered one.

I could go back I just know if I tried to leave he would kick off and probably try something

Can you plan to leave when he won't be around to cause problems? Don't tell him your plans.

Get out.

Your partner choked you?

GET OUT NOW.

That's a really dangerous thing. You need to get away from him as soon as you can.

Wait for him to go out, then gather your stuff and go back to your mum's. You're not safe there. You need to protect your baby and yourself from this man.

He recently lost his job (the week of Christmas) so he's been at home 24/7. The earliest I can get away is Friday when he has a job interview

Tell him to leave you need the house for your child, he can sort himself out in many ways elsewhere!

Do you ever take the baby out for a walk or go to a local mum's group? Or could your mum take you and baby for a "girls day out".

And don't go back

Roll on Friday. Until then, keep protecting yourself.

I could go on Tuesday but he would know if I took everything with me that I need for DS. It would have to be when he's out for a while otherwise I'll never get out

Look after your baby's mother, and get her (you!) out safely, asap, and stay out.

Call the police, explain the situation and have them supervise while you get your things and lease

*leave

You need to speak to the police. Hope you're ok xx