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I'm lost...

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Layla765 · 27/01/2018 13:08

Hello ladies. I'm new here so please be nice lol. It's a long story so please bear with me any advice will be greatly appreciated....

I just don't know what to do anymore. I've been in this relationship for 14years and we've 4 children. We've been through an awful lot e.g.. miscarriage, fall out with my family, the negative rude attitude and favouritism of children from his family, debt, health scares but we've somehow managed to get through.
NOW recently nothing major has happened it feels on my part lots of little things building up and im well im just not happy. I'm irritated lonely and just completly lost.
I try to talk to him but it just turns into an argument where he'll critisise me and fixate on snippets of what ive said. If I'm totally honest at this moment in time I'm completely checked out of this relationship. I'm so low and lonely.
I feel I've no fight or try left in me. But it makes me sad as I love him I don't want to throw 14 years away
(the kids will hate me for sure) but I don't want to be miserable and lonely anymore.

OP posts:
Tinkalilly · 27/01/2018 13:27

I feel a lot like you do, different circumstances, iv also just created a post. I also feel I have no fight left in me, I am just going through the motions because I can't face splitting up my family again.

Layla765 · 27/01/2018 13:35

Sorry to here that tinkalilly.
Thank you for your response. I am sorry We are in similar situation but in a weird way it's nice to know there's people out there going through the same thing and even though I've no friends or family there's someone out there to talk to.

What's happened? X

OP posts:
Tinkalilly · 27/01/2018 13:42

Hi there, I. Sorry too your having a hard time. You have read a document replied to my thread already x

laura65988 · 07/02/2018 08:05

Why are u with him then leave and move on if it's that unhappy don't stay for kids they will get used to it then u will be happy

hellsbellsmelons · 07/02/2018 11:13

Would he consider counselling together?
Some marriage guidance maybe?
Once you've checked out it's very hard to get back.
And although we can say 'just leave', with 4 kids that is a tall order.
Can you look into separation?
What it would really look like.
Do you both work full time?
Could you run 2 households?

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