After years of daily drudge and financial hardship we're now in a fairly comfortable position, both working full-time in decent jobs, no childcare cost anymore, good worklife balance, children generally take care of themselves. We have the time and money to do things together.
DH is lovely, has always done his bit at home and with DC, gives a fair bit of time to a voluntary organisation, has always worked hard and always treated everything we have as ours. Not at all controlling, I get my own way over most things.
My only niggle is that we never "do" anything. We'd never go on holiday unless I organise it, we'd never go out with friends unless they're my friends and I (or they) organise it. If I suggest a day out he's usually up for it, but the slightest thing will result in it being cancelled e.g. we had planned to go out last Sunday but he decided the gutters needed clearing. Which they did and it's not like he laid on the sofa instead.
It just feels like such hard work to have any fun.