Is it time to go?

[Boxingdaydisappoints]

I posted a couple of days ago in AIBU about DP refusing to communicate. I got some good advice. Today he's gone a step further, it's not just a refusal to talk about his divorce it's a refusal to talk about anything other than small talk! How's your day, etc!! I'm sitting here alone as he's fucked off for his hobby which takes up every Saturday,all day. I'm so pissed with him and he refuses to talk about anything. I think I've reached the point of no return. If we even touch on a subject he's not happy to discuss he starts shouting and throwing stuff (just cushions or towels).

He was totally different for our first year together. We don't go anywhere now, and he's only interested in his hobby or things that I'm not involved with (his job, his friends).

Is it time for me to throw the towel (in)?

If he won't talk, then what more is there left to do? If he won't talk it can't be fixed, so yes, I'd leave.

I think the throwing of things is unacceptable however, do you have different communication styles?
Why does your need to talk about his divorce, top trump his want, not to talk about it?
Maybe, you are just too different?

Simply, yes.

The throwing things is a signal/threat. I wouldn't hang about for him to upgrade his choice of item or target, when flinging soft stuff no longer makes you pipe down.

He's not interested in you, he's unpleasant to you, he won't discuss anything with you - why on earth would you stay?!

Sounds like he’s pretending everything is ok, even though he knows it’s not, so that when you split he can say it wasn’t his fault/he did nothing etc. If you want to try again book some relate sessions and include him... if he won’t go you have your answer. Good luck

Throwing stuff (even cushions) = not acceptable.

Thanks for your messages.

Not top trumping - I'd just like an update now and again. It affects me also.

The throwing is a worrying sign, I'm more concerned about the lack of communication at the moment.

What do you get out of this relationship now, what needs of yours are being met here?.

You are probably seeing his true nature now after the first year; its an act that some abusive at heart men cannot maintain. Throwing things like he has done here is completely unacceptable behaviour.

So the fact that his hobby day is more important than sorting out your relationship tells you all you need to know.
You are second in his life.
Who the fuck would accept that??
Ltb - today.

Jeeez, why on earth would anyone put up with this wanker!? Seriously, op, being single is way better than the crap you are tolerating. Don't bother reasoning or giving ultimatums, just have his stuff ready for when he gets back and tell him you are done. Good luck

When you are at the point of asking total strangers if it's time to end it, it's time to end it. You're not looking for advice, you're here to validate your feelings. Consider them validated. It's high time to end this going-nowhere relationship.

Sounds horrible, Must be awful for you. Perhaps leave him a letter and go away for a few days?

Thanks all,
Sadly it's not feasible to go away for a few days or to pack his stuff and kick him out. I'd have to leave and I need to do a bit more saving before I can do that. If I had the funds I'd be out next week!
It's clear I'm way down his list of priorities.