I was hoping for some advice with some issues i'm having with my sibling.
Me and my brother have been best friends pretty much our whole lives, when I met my husband they got on so well it was perfect. Since he met his partner he's changed a lot, he makes no effort for anyone else and i've found it difficult for a while how he constantly forgets everyone else in his life. He's very paranoid and obsessive and often loses his temper at me, thinking i'm trying to split them up - i'm not.
Thats beside the issue. In terms of family we're close to separate parts of our family he's very close to our Mothers family and i'm very close to my Fathers. At Christmas time I visited my Uncle and cousins on my Fathers side and my brother took serious offence to this. He kept trying to wind me up saying how 'great it was there was a family party' and how 'i'm sure no one would be missed' there was no party, I was simply visiting. It was very petty and I tried to calm the situation explaining I was simply visiting them. After a while he completely lost his temper and told me how I shouldn't have made the effort to go and visit them, and tried to turn it into a situation where he was the only person not 'invited' and I had done him wrong by going. Turning it into something it clearly wasn't. He hasn't spoken to me since then. He's refused to apologise for the way he spoke to me and hasn't made any effort. I suppose i'm a little surprised, i've spent a few weeks out of the country for work since then and didn't hear from him at all.
I feel so torn about the situation, it doesn't seem like a big deal I suppose when I write it down. Part of me is mad at him and wants to speak to him and get it all out. But the other part of me feels so over it.
Has anyone else just reached a point with people when you just give up trying, like you have made so much effort and are so tired with being made to feel like crap by them you are just done and wanting to put some distance between you?