He must think im a mug.

[Missbarrburrito]

So me and my oh have been together 3 years...hes admitted to a dodgy past with girls but claims I am the one

Lately Ive been more aware of his phone usage and in particular his whatsapp usage. So the past few days everytime I left the room I went on whatsapp and nearly everytime he was online...and if I walked in the room he would put his phone down. So I asked him about it...I asked to see his fo e and he point blanked refused...I told him to get out so he did...came back in after 10 mins threw the fone on the floor and said here check it....I didnt bother cause I knew he woyld have deleted everything....which he admitted he had done. Anyway I kicked him out and he was adament he hadent done anything but didnt want me to see his fo e cause he had been 'planning his proposal' to me...that he had a group set up on whatsapp with his mates helping him...he had nothing to prove this as he had deleted it so the surprise wouldnt be ruined. He said the groyp got deleted off his mates fone too.....sooooo I already deep down know what the answer is but could there be an ounce of truth in this??

No

Well clearly not. Why do you even need to ask?

The truth is he deleted everything. If the proposal thing was true he would have shown you.

I'm sorry op, but you've made the right decision. He's probably shitting himself that you've just tossed him out.

Typical Army lad Hes said hes fuming cause its the one time he hasent done anything wrong and hes been kicked out.... ok...so when have you done something wrong??!

Trust your instinct.

My DP managed to propose to me without me suspecting a thing. He could text and arrange it another time.
And a group chat, so all of his mates had deleted their chat as well? That doesnt make sense at all, and if it doesnt make sense its not true.

I'd bet a lot of money he's got something to hide and its not a proposal.

He'll probably propose or something to fling u off the scent

He said causee he was the main one in the group once he deleted it it delted the group alltogether even off his mates fones....I know how whatsapp works...

Nah, he's scrabbling now. Trends minutes he's had to come up with this. Who throws a phone like a petulant toddler? And he's finally telling the truth, WTF? What's he been lying about?

Op you deserve someone who is honest.

He does get very defensive

Could you ask some of his friends? To see whether they slip up?

Never met them. They probably would slip up of they arr as dumb as he is

A group of army lads doing group chat for a proposal?

Yeah right!

Bottom line: You're not happy or comfortable. That's what counts. Listen to yourself.

Hence why hes now back at the barracks...probably watsapping away tp some slut

Why would he delete it? You just wouldn't in that scenario - it would be your only evidence you were telling the truth. He's either a liar or extremely stupid - get rid and/ or find someone smarter and more loyal.

Trust your instincts. You know the answer to your question.

Ive been through this so many times with exes. I know I wont sleep tonight...il feel a hole in my stomach tomorrow morning...then feel enpowered to move on with my life and the in the evening il cry my eyes out...try to look for some slither of truthfulness to his BS and eat lots of crap. And that will go on for a few days...

Hand hold OP. Typical army lad I believe 😔

Not typical army lad at all..every single military lad I've ever had the pleasure of knowing has been honest, trustworthy and reliable .

Also, if there is another woman. She's not a slut.

It's him you have the problem with. Focus on that, and how angry you and let it Carry you through.

When you delete a Whatsapp chat group that you set up the admin rights go to the next person who joined - the group does not delete
Sorry about him

You dodged a bullet but "slut" is a vile word to use about anyone

I apologise for the word I used...I guess it isnt the womans fault...shes probably as in the dark as he thougt I was.

Op, if this keeps happening to you, you may want to do some should searching about why. There's a saying: if you meet a jerk one day, you've met a jerk. If you meet jerks everyday, you're thejerk.

I'm not saying you're a jerk of course, but why do you keep picking them?
Maybe compare then to your lovely dad before you get too serious?

Burrito, sorry for sounding so blunt. He doesnt sound like he deserves you though

Sounds like a crap situation, trust your instinct.

However, don't tar all army guys with the same brush, I'm very happily married to a captain!

Men sit around in groups planning proposals?

Goodness.

That must have been an incredibly elaborate proposal...