For years my brother who is a few years younger than me and perhaps I spoiled, (it was just the two of us so was my baby a bit to) there has been resentment and hostility. It feels like he is very resentful towards myself and my parents yet my parents are always ready to help him with childcare at a moments notice. There is a bad cycle of every now and again he blows up- he gets very angry and then we fall out for a little bit, receive a rubbish apology that feels more like a criticism and then my parents and I decide to just keep quiet and hope the bad feeling from him and our hurt will pass. My parents are getting older now and I want us to be friends. We spend a lot of time trying to work out whats wrong with him or just venting his latest explosion, however minor. From his point of view- there is nothing wrong with him and we are always judging him unfairly... were always being critical. I don't think we will ever get any kind of apology or acknowledgment that he has behaved badly in the past. So what do I do? Im very hurt that he has shouted at my parents unfairly, taken them for granted, insulted my son and generally can seem so bitter towards us. But I used to get on so well with him and really like him- its seems so dumb to not be friends. Is it possible to bury everything and move on?