PS4 widow

[Strawberrylaceaddict]

Hi all,

I’m at my wits end with my partner and his PlayStation! He comes home from work everyday and is straight on it, eats dinner and then goes back on until about 11.30pm. I’m in bed by 10. At the weekends, any spare moment he gets in the day he is on it and then in the evening will play through until 3am! Am I being unreasonable by getting annoyed with this? It’s just started happening, usually after a week he is bored and generally realises when I’ve had enough of him playing but this time it’s been almost a month and there’s no end in sight.

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

I would leave him to his PS; that is his main priority here, not you.

We have been together 6 years and own a house together. We don’t have our own children but I have a daughter and has a son, so whilst the relationship isn’t great atm it has been for many years. Like you say though I feel that me and the family come second to his PlayStation

What is he playing that keeps him hooked that long? I’ve always found grown ups playing games all night a bit weird but I know lots seem to like it

I’m not sure what it’s called but it’s some sort of online fighting/survival game. He gets annoyed when I talk to him about it because his friends don’t get nagged... perhaps that’s because his friends don’t have families. I agree I do find it weird grown men addicted to games!

Fortnite?

I'm a grown up and I too am hooked

Psn was down yesterday though so hopefully you had some respite!

It is out of order when gaming gets in the way of real life though so I do sympathise. My ex h was the same. Yet Another reason he's an x.

It's not "weird" that "grown men" play games. Most decent games are 18+ meaning they aren't for children.

Gaming shouldn't interfere with family life. Why can't you both come to a compromise? Would he be cross with you if you were watching TV or reading?

My DH and I will only game once everything else is done and DD is in bed.

Btw, if it IS Fortnite then he may not have got bored as quickly as there is a new map... so lots of new places to explore. Hopefully he will get bored again soon and you can have a chat about it all and put some boundaries in place!

I personally think it is weird when you get passed a certain age and it’s taking up that amount of time. I would also say someone going to the gym all night and all weekend is weird too. I don’t see the point of being in a relationship if you don’t want to engage at all with your partner (and child in this case)

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An ex of mine was like this, couldn’t be away from his pc. Used to have to set alarms for him to remember things, it was like having a child. Note ‘ex’. If he chooses gaming over life with you then there’s not much point is there.

I don’t mind him playing within reason, we all need some down time. I find it ‘wierd’ Because I’m not into it and neither is anyone else that I know. If it’s causing arguments then it’s a problem, which at the moment we can’t seem to resolve. Grr whose idea was it to invent a PlayStation with games aimed at adults .

It doesn't sound like he wants to spend any time with you so have you considered ltbing?

My OH is also a gamer, we've discussed and agreed appropriate hours (he still needs prompting often), and have game free nights too... with some give and take on occasion it works.... I think I'd prefer him to game than go out drinking all hours etc

Have you tried coming to some sort of compromise? Eg every other night.. Etc

So because you are not personally into it it is “weird”?!

Games have been aimed at adults since they were first developed, OP. Is everything you're not into weird then?

Why is gaming any different to watching a movie? In fact, it's better. You're actually involved in the story and your decisions affect the plot. Much better than sitting like a sloth with your eyes glued to a passive screen. Gaming also works the brain, improves dexterity, is social, builds literacy and numeracy skills and is just fun.

I find the whole concept of seeing gamers as lesser humans utterly bizarre. Everyone has hobbies that they enjoy. Come to a compromise about gaming time and leave the poor man alone.

I don’t find everything that I’m not into wierd, just the ones that have managed to turn a 34 year old mans social capabilities into that of a teenager. Walks through the door and doesn’t acknowledge anyone, eats dinner and doesn’t say a word, that sort of thing... (of course not every teen is like this, I’m stereotyping massively here). At the moment there is no compromise as he has decided this is what he is going to do. He’s strong headed and currently just sees it as me being unreasonable, we live with each other so therefore see each other all the time. Just have to go with it for now and see how it pans out.

My ex was like this. Some weekends he'd stay up until 7am playing online games, on the only TV in the house.
He also watched kids cartoons back to back, it got really boring.

Sorry to hear he's not willing to compromise... it's pretty shitty of him to do that... if my OH was on it all the time, I'd not be happy... and I'd leave him to have a fulfilling relationship with his computer...

Sympathy OP. My DH is a gamer. Whilst these days he massively limits the amount he plays (we have very young DC) he admits himself he can get carried away and that it's very addictive. What annoys me is the 'I can't stop now I have to wait to get to a certain point!' That's caused arguments...

I don't really see the point of gaming personally, but try to understand it as DH does love it.

We have a family member (with DC) who room a fortnight of leave to play his new game...his OH was not happy!

Gaming isn't weird but it is addictive. It's also not social in any real life sense.

Nothing wrong with gaming as a hobby if it doesn’t take over. But it is addictive and it sounds as if he’s addicted. Spending every free moment gaming is no way to live IMO. Sorry OP but I would LTB.

It's also not social in any real life sense

Yes it is.

It's also not social in any real life sense

Yes it is.