Parents don't approve of sexuality

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I was with exDP for many years. He was EA and very controlling, and I never felt completely "right"

I left him and a few months later developed feelings for a female friend of mine. We got together and I honestly couldnt be happier.

For the first time in my life I feel completely at ease and everything feels right.

But my parents don't approve. Particarly DF who wasnt happy about my separation in the first place. They pick faults with her wherever possible and have said some very vicious things. I am prepared to go NC if necassary, for the first time in my life I am focused on being happy and not confirming to what others want me to do.

But will it ever get better? Is it just a "needing time" thing?

I don't think it's a 'needing time' thing.
Your Ddad wanted to you stay in an abusive relationship!
They are just not supportive at all.
I'd go low contact to start with and then NC if necessary.
But don't put your DP in a position where she is any where near your DParents. That's not fair.

It depends. (Congrats by the way) I was lucky my parents were very accepting of my female partner (now wife) but I know others who have not been so lucky. It's a form of emotional blackmail - well done for not giving in to it.
My wife came out as gay in her teens - her mother initially told her she was disappointed in her but eventually accepted and then embraced her sexuality.
In other cases where parents were quite cruel to their children when they came out threatening to cut all ties, disinherit them and so forth. Some of these children said 'ok cut contact then' - but of course what sometimes happened was a few years down the line the parents got vertigo from sitting on their high horses and missed their children and so re- established contact now seemingly unconcerned about their sexuality which had previously been so problematic.
A friend recently entered into a same sex relationship and initially her parents wouldn't accept her gf. She gave them an ultimatum and they backed down. Her parents have got over themselves and are now totally accepting of them as a couple.
Personally, if you can bear it, if my parents had been unaccepting I would have gone no contact. I Know it can be a shock and parents sometimes need time to come to terms with it and to readjust but they should not resort to viciousness.
It's so sad - there are so many other things to get vicious about - why waste anger on a loving happy couple - especially when one half of that couple is your own daughter.

No personal experience but having grown up with two close friends who came out to apprehensive parents as teens: it really depends!

Friend A's mother went from 'I'll never have grandbabies' to borderline cringeworthy levels of support (as in: I'd hate for my parents to get this emotionally invested in my love live) within a few months. Friend A is NC with her bio dad, but her step-father is lovely and was supportive from the outset.

Friend B's parents were family friends of ours. They really struggled and never fully came round. B doesn't speak to them much anymore - neither does anyone in my family, along with a number of other folks in the wider circle of friends. They've handled things so badly that nearly everyone vaguely familiar with the situation took offense on B's behalf. 20 years later, I still feel rage at how they tried to emotionally blackmail their own daughter into staying in the closet.

So, really, can go either way IME. One important factor that comes to mind is that B's family was always very invested in outside perception and keeping up with the Joneses whereas A's really didn't care much. Ironically, B's parents are a vicar and a psychotherapist and the exact sort of people who could go on lengthy sermons about being non-judgmental towards others and whatnot.

I've been low contact for about 6 months now, but it just seems to be getting worse as they blame DP for it and refuse to accept any wrong doing on their part. They said I am blind to it. I hate that they are so focused on me going through a "phase" and don't see what an amazing, loving and supportive partner i have.

DP wont have anything to do with them now understandably and I won't force her to, she just feels guilty, like shes to blame for me losing my family. Despite me saying she is not responsible for their behaviour.