Just bumped into my stupid ex

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Nc’d for this as posted rather outing stuff unde normal username.

I haven’t seen him for a decade and I just saw him in my hometown. We said hi, I told him he looked like a bloody Tory, he told me that I’ve got old, I told him he was still short. We laughed and said goodbye.

This was about an hour ago and I have been sobbing since I got home. I don’t know why I’m crying. This boy completely and utterly broke my heart. But I’m happily married, I think he’s married too. Wtf is going on. I feel so, so broken just because I bumped into a stupid person I used to know. I had at least put makeup on and wasn’t dressed like a complete scummer like I normally am though.

sorry your upset OP - cold it be you still have feelings for him? what does looking like a Tory even mean - is that an insult these days?

I'm sure you looked beautiful and composed and came across as lovely and relaxed

Sorry you feel so sad now. It's not stupid. It's how you feel.

I think it's normal, OP. Won't last, but you're re-living your pain because the encounter reminded you.

FWIW, the boy who broke my heart somehow managed to become reasonably famous. I read about his wedding in the paper and spent the rest of the day sobbing in a corner. I was a smart, together 33-year-old professional at the time and certainly not a dramatic teen.

The good news is: the re-loaded version of the heartbreak fades a lot quicker than the original.

Thank you everyone. I think you’re tonight bossy it is just reliving he heartbreak again. I don’t really think of him at all so it’s not like I’ve been pining for him for a decade.

midnight it wasn’t really supposed to be an insult. When I last saw him he was all spiky hair, ripped jeans and piercings. Today he was wearing chinos and red socks.

Could it be he was part of your life when you were younger with no responsibilities, and you are grieving that part of your life in some way.

It could be that itmademy. I’m really not a particularly emotional person and can’t remember the last time I cried. I certainly haven’t sobbed my heart out like that since my dad died 5 years ago. It just really surprised me because I didn’t know why I was crying.

Anyway feeling a lot better now.

You're saying goodbye. It's a catharsis of sorts and a rending of your emotional fabric. Or summat like that.

Sounds normal to me. It's like a gut punch bumping into an ex that really hurt you and broke your heart.

Not surprised you are upset. Perfectly normal part of letting go of the past.