How to stop an addiction to a toxic man?

[ProcrastinatingPolly]

Oldie but NC’d....have been dating a guy for 10 months who is lovely but a bit boring. I always compare him to my ex who I had lot’s of fun with but it came with devastating consequences to my emotional and mental health....have taken ex back a multitude of times and he does the same thing repeatedly and each time hurts as much as the last....ex very addictive, passionate and exciting - great sex and lot’s of laughs but bad outweighs good....he’s contacted me after weeks of NC and I don’t know what to do....each time I forgive him and each time he hurts me....don’t want to mess bf around and think I love him...is cold turkey best option?

You KNOW it is. Or you wouldnt have decided to do it after taking him back multiple times only to be let fucking down again and again.

Stay NC. And dump the bore.

Polly, come visit the NC thread

Really is ure new bf who treats u nice that bad that ud even consider taking ex back u deserve the bad shit

Firstly, break things off with your current boyfriend. The way you're treating him isn't fair. You say he's boring and you can't genuinely be interested in him if you're considering getting back with your ex. Be fair, give him a chance to meet someone who will love and appreciate him.

Secondly, go nc with your ex. He's bad for you, you know that. Visit the nc thread on here and get support to help you get him out of your life for good.

Split up with your lovely but boring boyfriend and let him find someone who loves him properly and doesn't consider him boring.

Then fall back into the same old on-off pattern with the exciting ex and get even more messed up. Or not.

You need to go full on NC with your ex or he will keep on ruining your life.
You are addicted to the excitement, but he will carry on hurting you because he can,
Your new bf is everything that your ex is not but your ex has you so confused that you cannot see what's good for you.