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My DH.....

12 replies

Eponine1 · 23/01/2018 09:39

My DH is one of those with not much sense of time.
He is always late. He never does things when he says he will. And you need to tell him things are half an hour earlier then they actually are if you want a chance for him to get there on time. I however am the complete opposite. You can imagine all the wondeful arguments....Grin
He takes the kids to school in the morning.
School is 3 min drive away so this means it starts at 9 and many a morning the kids are leaving at 8.59 with me tearing my hair out.
Today the DH only got up at 8.59 which resulted in kids being at least 10 mins late and me going nuts and tearing my hair out.
My husband is upset with me for getting so angry. I know its bad that mornings are so stressful. What do i do? Am i missing something? All ive asked is for him to be ready just 5 minutes earlier so they will be on time. And the more angry i get in the morning when they running late the more angry he gets with me.
How am i suppose to be all sweetness and light and peace to the world when i watch the clock ticking and him moving at the pace of a snail already late. Plus its always the mums who get told off for these things. He doesnt know the shame and embarassment when comments are made to me about them when they are late....
Ahhhh help meee. Thanks 4 listening.

OP posts:
Phillipa12 · 23/01/2018 09:47

It shows a complete lack of respect to you and the dcs school, i would insist that all correspondence for lateness is addressed to your dh in future.

hellsbellsmelons · 23/01/2018 09:53

Can he not set his alarm for earlier?
Lateness shows a complete lack of respect for others and their time.
It's basically saying 'your time is not important but mine is'
It's something you learn in every training session.
Time management is important.
Do you drive at all?
Could you take the DC to school?
I honestly couldn't deal with this at all.
My DSis has this with her OH.
It would be the end for me as I just couldn't put up with it, day in and day out! Not a chance.

Thefutureisbright2017 · 23/01/2018 09:54

Can you leave the house at 8.30 for a week and leave him to it? Yes they might be late all week, but you need to remove yourself from situation to let him see his incompetence and its repercussions. Have the school contact him by phone every time they're late.

saladdays66 · 23/01/2018 09:55

Does he get to work on time?

That would drive me mad. Lazy git. That means you get up with the dc and get them ready for school, etc? Sod that for a game of soldiers.

Karigan1 · 23/01/2018 09:56

Can you change all the clocks putting them back ten minutes

Bluntness100 · 23/01/2018 09:58

Make an agreement with him kids need to be there for 8.30 or 8.45.

You're not being unreasonable. I can't abide people being late either, it just shows a don't give a shit selfish attitude.

holdonasecondwaitwhatno · 23/01/2018 09:58

Switch jobs. It's annoying but it's not fair on your kids.

Or if it's a 3 min drive, can they walk?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 23/01/2018 11:18

Why is he not getting up earlier? It doesn't take a genius to know that 8.59 is too late! Does he not need to go to work?

Hermonie2016 · 23/01/2018 11:44

I would ask the school to write to him about it.
A local school had a board which tracked lateness and they assessed the impact over a school year.It really adds up.The disruption factor is worse as the teachers have a tough enough job getting children settled each morning.

Chronic lateness is disrespect and can be passive aggressive..does he genuinely want to take the dc's to school?

MyBrilliantDisguise · 23/01/2018 11:51

Does he have a job? Is he on time for that?

Do you work? You say you're watching him get up at 8.59 (that would do my head in, seeing that) - do you work from home?

MyBrilliantDisguise · 23/01/2018 11:51

It's dangerous if he's rushing at 9 am, too - surely his driving is affected?

BitOutOfPractice · 23/01/2018 11:56

That would drive me mental too and it’s so unfair on the kids. And who is getting the kids ready while he’s lying in bed like the Queen of Sheba Confused

Perhaps finding out that persistent lateness has a real detrimental effect on educational outcomes might help him get his lazy selfish arse into gear

Theres lots of evidence if you google. Lateness matters.

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