Dating my ex’s brother

[Archer2007]

So, my ex and I dated off and on over the last two years. We went our separate ways when I found out that he cheated on me twice. His brother and I had been friends during the entirety of our relationship. His brother and I conituned to text back and forth after my break up with his brother, and then for the past two months we’ve been hanging out and spending time together. I’m starting to have really strong feelings for him, and he for me. This is where the ex comes in to play. He is extremely upset that his brother and I are spending time together. He’s threatening me saying that he has “pics” that don’t exist, and that he’s going to call my family and tell them what he believes is going on between his brother and I. He says his family doesn’t want me there, but the two family members that I’ve interacted with have been nothing but warm and kind to me. I just don’t understand why my ex cares so much. He didn’t care enough about me when we were dating but now he just can’t let this go.

I wouldn’t date an ex’s family member- way too messy even with an amicable split. Imagine if an ex of yours dated your sister- wouldn’t that weird you out as well as Drive a massive wedge between you and her?

When did you break up?

Really? If all the millions of men and you want to date his brother? Why?

Too damn messy.

Way too close for comfort for me! Of all the men you could date you really want your exs brother? I'd end it now before you two get to deep and look for someone who's family I haven't dated

I wouldn't do it.

If you do, I would just accept that you stay well back from his family until the x has got used to the idea. If you date your X's brother you're being a bit insensitive expecting to just wade back in to the middle of his family on the arm of a different brother

My ex and I broke up about a year ago, talked about giving it one more try but I’m talking I found out he was seeing other people so that shut that idea down.

I never expected to just wade back in. I figure it would take time, and I’m willing to put in the time. In my mind, you can’t help who you fall for and I don’t feel that dating a relative of an ex should have this big stigma attached to it. I know it makes things a bit complicated and sometimes harder, but if you care for someone I don’t feel that should be an issue.

Hmm. I wouldn't want to date a man so unscrupulous that he would date his brothers ex anyway.

As a pp said would you be mind if your ex dated your sister? I do think it's a big deal sorry imagine sleeping with someone your sister has slept with

Will they compare notes, do you think?

There are billions of people in the world, literally billions.

Just...why??

I don’t feel that dating a relative of an ex should have this big stigma attached to it.

So would it be ok for a man to date his exes mum? Or a woman to date her exes dad? There's a stigma for a reason.

Shitty thing to do IMO.

Wow I'm more shocked that someone would date his brothers ex. Unless they don't like each other I have to wonder if he has 0 respect for his family.

Why on earth do people date ex’s friends & relatives, it’s just so wrong on every level. You just don’t do it OP

You can’t help who you fall for, but you can help what you do about it.
I wouldn’t. Inappropriate and messy.

Like in all things, someone dating the ex’s parent would be extremely weird, at least in my opinion due to the significant age difference, but yes...it shouldn’t be something to stop people from falling in love.

Well go for it then. That's obviously what you want everyone to say? And if you have kids you can tell them you dated daddy and his brother.