Falling for someone totally not my type

[DO3271]

I suppose this is going to seem like a daft post but I need to just sound it out with some opinions please.

I have fallen for a bloke who physically I don't fancy at all. Very slim, short and a bit weather beaten but oh my god he makes me feel phenomanal. He turns me on, the sex is electric and I get butterflies but I am so confused as to how he makes me feel but visually I don't fancy him? Its so strange to me. I always assumed the fancying bit came with an attraction?

I don't know really what I want from any answers just needed to offload. Has anyone else fallen for someone thats not their type at all?

Someone's "type" is a logical choice whereas attraction is an emotional response. I know which is more important to me... enjoy!

You don't live in the SE of England do you by any chance ? He sounds just like a guy I know !! Is he weather beaten because of his job ?

So although you feel great with him, you still don't like to look at him?

I always found that feeling good with someone led to being happy with their looks.

That happened to me once. Ten years younger than me, kinda ugly really but the rapport between us was insane, he was an artist. It was very exciting while it lasted. Roll with it I say!!

Yes this has happened to me. The guy was short, skinny yet muscular, very weather beaten and balding but the chemistry was electric. His scent, presence, everything made me burn up inside. Owing to circumstances it never went further than lots of passionate kisses/ the odd quick fumble
but God it was good! sigh Enjoy yourself! Don't worry what others think either. 😉

I’ve had this. Met a guy OLD who I really liked. I kinda went with the flow. Found his personality and physique attractive but not his face! Amazing sex! It didn’t last. But was good!

It could be that small guys make greater effort in the bedroom !

Not sure how you have worked out you don't find him physically attractive when he sets your knickers on fire?

Stop asking stupid questions and enjoy yourself!

Happened to me too. Tall skinny quiet type where as id always gone for broad shouldered loud types.

Married him years ago and now have lots of children with my not my type at all husband!

I mean, even if you did really fancy him now, down he line he might physically become “not your type” with age, waist lines, hair etc but you are still attracted to them because you know them and love them. But if someone showed single you a picture of them you might well dismiss them.

Just enjoy it whether it’s just for now or is a long term thing. If you find you have too much of a hang up on it then you know it’s not for you.

Yes this happened to me. Met a man on-line dating, seemed hilarious when we were texting etc, then when we met I was disappointed. He's a bit overweight, balding, not very tall - totally not my type. But we got on well so I saw him again, and now nearly 2 years later I'm totally smitten with him. Amazing sex, butterflies etc. When I see him across a room I don't think "ooh what an attractive man", but I get a huge feeling of happiness because I think he's lovely.

Roll with it OP, see what happens.

He obviously has charisma, which is an entirely different quantity from good looks. Lucky you!

Thanks for the replies. I suppose I just need to get my narrow mind widened. He does seem to be growing on me and as the feelings grow so does the attractiveness. I have never met anyone like him, bit of a shock to the system

Thanks for giving me perspective, writing things down and opinions make for a clearer mind.

Finding a potential partner who is physically attractive is relatively easy but how often do you find someone who makes you feel good? Unless there is something about his appearance that you just cannot overlook, I really think you should go for it as it sounds like you are developing a rare and special connection.