He wants contact with lo after split?

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I've left my abusive boyfriend after 3 and a half years
When I say abusive I mean moody, short tempered, bad mood and it's worn me down
I'm still in the process of moving out his house
We've hardly spoken and only via text as I've asked him to leave me alone and give me space whilst I try and find somewhere ASAP which at the moment he is doing
He has asked if he can still see my lo when I've gone ?!
Am I right for thinking no?
Yes of course he has been a part of her life
He loved her like his own but the reason it's ended is because he couldn't control his temper and I've given him chance after chance
I think it's best we cut contact but I've said let's see how it goes once I've moved
I'm heartbroken it hasn't worked
I still love him but I'm very confused at the moment
What's everyone's views ?

I am sad but no your wrong I'm not getting back with him

Op how would you feel if her bio dad split up from his ea gf and she wanted contact with your dd?
Pretty sure her bio dad wouldn't be happy about this. It's not like he's been a proper step father in her life for like 10+ years.

If you let every ex-boyfriend stay in touch with your daughter because he's been in the role of stepdad for 3 years, by the time she's grown up she'll have five or six fathers. Imo a clean break would be best.

Well what is in your lo's best interests? If you think he will treat her decently and not try to abuse you through her, I think you should let them continue to have see each other.

One of the major pros for not being married means that you do just get to up and leave with no mess. No lawyers and no contact.

Not true, unfortunately.

Any adult who has lived with a child, any child, for 2 years or more has the right to apply to court for leave to seek a Child Arrangement Order giving them ongoing contact with that child.

Not common, but does happen when a formerly resident adult has fulfilled a parenting role.

She has a dad in her life. No need for this one who didn't treat you right.

Like a pp said... you could pile up on stepdads if things don't work out.