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What is our "status" relationship-wise? and are we on the same wavelength?

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user1497126393 · 22/01/2018 16:39

I met "X" 2 yrs ago, moved west of the city, 2 months later same with him (he moved west although he prefers and works in the east)...we hang out, talk for hours, drink/eat…after X amount of weeks; we were having sex.
With my own personal reasons, i still found it hard to get into him and putting off our dates often.

But now i realise i can chat to him for hours & he’s a gentlemen eg: lends his coat, lifts my chin up to passionately kiss me, lock hands in public, pays for everything and put on soothing music/candle for sex. He seems to follow advice/tips I come up with and ask me opinions on this and that.

He lets me leave toothbrush at his and bought me guest slippers for his place and will take me away for a weekend for my birthday.

With the bad ...we’re about the present nothing else matters (and I don’t want others interfering) & only started non-condom sex and naked which makes me feel warmer to him and possibly the same for him?

Confusingly, he introduced me to friend by only my name and at times looks at women here & there yet he looks into my eyes clasping my hands but wanting to say something but won’t.

I asked him who knows about me and he said some close friends and that “he is seeing someone (me)” (What does that mean exactly??). I also stated that “we won’t do stuff with others” and he nodded.

For 2-3 months he texts me daily morning and night and when I leave the morn after, he kisses/holds me like he doesn’t wish to let go.
He makes me happy and a great influence but its hard to get him to open up and I’m not easy there either! eg: he had the body language of saying that he'll miss me for a week or so but I asked "will you miss me?" which he said "of course" and vice-versa.

We both agreed the L word and family is too early (it scares me to!) yet getting closer and he booked a holiday (due to work stress) and contacting me more while there plus he insisted on seeing me the evening of his leaving despite at dawn wake up then straight after he returns back.

How does this relationship sound? like were friends who f*? Dating? (definition please!) starting of a Relationship? Lovers? B/f & G/f? or another label with meaning?

OP posts:
ShirleyPhallus · 22/01/2018 16:41

Why are you asking here and not having this conversation with him? Confused

user1497126393 · 22/01/2018 16:42

I'm not sure what to ask him and how! I'm not great with opening up/communication either

OP posts:
whatsthecomingoverthehill · 22/01/2018 16:44

You've been seeing each other for what, 18 months? It doesn't really matter what anyone else would call it, the question is are you happy with it at the moment? If you want something more defined then you've got to ask him.

AFistfulOfDolores · 22/01/2018 18:06

I'm not sure what to ask him and how! I'm not great with opening up/communication either

Well, there's your problem right there. Might as well start doing something about that now.

ReanimatedSGB · 22/01/2018 18:14

Does a label matter that much? Are you looking for progress and is your aim marriage/children? If that's the case then maybe you need to have a chat with him. But you will need to be prepared for him not necessarily being keen on planning a future together.

I don't know how old you are, but the fact that you weren't that bothered about him at first makes me wonder if you are 'settling' because you do not want to be single.

MistressDeeCee · 22/01/2018 21:57

Seeing and sleeping with a man for 2 years yet can't ask him what your relationship status is..are you 2 very young?!

& all those definition labels/examples Confused . Maybe there's such a thing as a Love Therapist you can ask...?

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