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Terrified and alone

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Marie0701 · 21/01/2018 22:27

Hi I'm seeking advice....i have lived with my partner for 4 years in his home, I don't have anything in my name, but been paying all the bills since I moved in. I have a 17 and 19 year old sons. Thursday night he told me our relationship is over and I have to get out. I'm terrified I'm going to come back after work and my stuff is going to be outside and the locks changed. He won't talk to me, I have explained I need time to get a deposit together. Where do i stand?

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Wetwashing00 · 21/01/2018 23:03

What does he spend his money on?
I’d stop paying for everything to start with and just try to stay there as long as you can. Pack an emergency bag of things you will need if you do find the locks changed, maybe leave it in your car if you have one or at a friends house.
You would probably have to start court proceedings to prove you’ve been paying rent/mortgage from your bank account to have any sort of claim over the house but you may not get anywhere. It probably won’t help you if he locks you out.
Get yourself an appointment with citizens advice to discuss your housing options.

RaspberryCheese · 21/01/2018 23:08

Can you afford to rent somewhere,maybe house share? check spare room website etc..?

justoneday · 21/01/2018 23:09

I don't know. But I don't think there is much you can do. Legal advice first thing in the morning. I've been there, luckily I had my mum to go to. My ex used to own our home and on his whims would decide to change the locks and throw my things out. Is there somewhere you could go?

RaspberryCheese · 21/01/2018 23:16

You need to leave ASAP, preferably whilst he is out. Make sure you cut off all links with him ,any joint financial arrangements etc. Make sure you are disassociated with him with regard to credit profiling.

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Marie0701 · 22/01/2018 11:19

Thanks for the advice, my parents are very supportive but are unable to put us up. I have been to the letting agents this mirningvand at the moment they don't hav

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hellsbellsmelons · 22/01/2018 11:50

Get on to your local council.
Also speak to Shelter. They should be able to help you.

BerkInBag · 22/01/2018 11:57

I second calling Shelter they gave some excellent advice when a relative of mine was made homeless. He is effectively making you homeless if he is evictiing you before you have had time to make alternative arrangements. Shelter and the Council are who you need to talk to now.

What a shit he is. Sorry you are going through this.

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