Hi all,
Just looking for a bit of advice.
I found myself looking at my boyfriend of 11 months Facebook messages (I know this in itself is awful) and saw a very recent conversation, that was initiated by a female facebook friend who was making very sexual advances towards him.
Rather than rebuffing her, he went along with it over the course of 20 minutes or so, before leaving the conversation be.
I immediately confronted my bf, whose first reaction was to assure me that this has never happened before, and he would never ever have met up with her.
He says he was simply so shocked at receiving such a message, at 10am on a work day, that he wanted to see what was happening and got carried away before stopping.
He says he is not used to that sort of attention, with me being one of very few partners he has had.
My bf has expressed such great regret over this and doesn't know how I can forgive him. He knows there are no excuses for not telling me about it, or simply not responding. To be honest, I think he just got caught up in a moment of madness, behaved totally out of character and realises the error of his ways.
He has been very clear that it wouldn't happen again, and has deleted the female in question without me having to ask. He said he doesn't think it's appropriate to allow her to initiate another such conversation.
Please understand that I am not simply going to return back to where we were, he is of course going to have to regain my trust, but I can see how people are not perfect, and I want to give him a chance to redeem himself.
To be clear also, had it been more than one female, continuous such conversations with the same female, meeting up or actual physical contact in any way, I would be long gone.
He also knows that if anything, no matter how small, of this nature happens again, I will leave.
I'm just wanting to know, has anyone else been In a similar situation? What did you Do? Has it worked out?
Thanks all!