DP still has wedding dress and photo album

[marmitecrumpets]

Hi.

Please be gentle with me.

I've been with my DP for nearly a year now. She still has her wedding dress and wedding photo album from when she was married to her ex. I am confused as to why she'd keep this. Is this normal or not?

She also is still technically married to her ex. And hasn't mentioned getting divorced to her. She tells me it's because she can't afford the £550. I wish it was done. It's hard dating someone else's wife!

I really do love my DP, and I'm sure she loves me. Am I worrying over nothing?!

I still have both my wedding dresses and photo albums. It’s part of my history and I have dc with the last ex so it’s something she’s been interested in and it will be passed into her at some point.

I don’t see it as a problem tbh

How long have they been separated?

I’m waiting until I have been separated from my husband 2 years before instigating proceedings. It’s not so much about the money as it is about my desire to keep things amicable for our child. Filing for divorce based on irreconcilable differences and then listing instances of it, whilst I could easily do it, is not conducive to the end result I want. So I will wait another few months and then we can simply just sign the paperwork.

I won’t be throwing away my wedding dress or photo album.

My new partner is perfectly comfortable with this.

I have both, and have wedding photos in frames still. I looked lovely, some have family members in (including some who have since died) and my DS likes them. I wouldn't take down my pictures for anybody and I 100000% don't want my ex back.
We are also still married because I can't be arsed to sort out the paperwork and he won't do it unless he wants to marry someone else at some point.

Hope all those still married have written wills, or your ex could get the lot if something happens to you. They will possibly also still be next-of-kin...

Perfectly normal op, like others here my wedding pics are in the loft, my dd likes them (she thinks they are quite funny) and I have still got my very simple wedding dress because it is beautiful. Do I want my ex back? No fucking chance!

Neither my ex nor I own anything so it really doesn't matter

We don't own anything either so no will needed..my pension and life insurance have nominees.

I do worry that he might turn off my life support though.

I've been divorced for hundreds of years. . I'd really like to still have my wedding dress and album. Doesn't mean I still want to be married to XDH although I must say, we still meet up and are good friends. No romantic interest on my part though.

offer her the money for the divorce, her reaction in that instance will tell you whether she wants to be divorced or not.

To answer some of the questions, they've been separated nearly 2 years.
They've got a DS together.
The ex is a woman (as am I, if that wasn't clear)

Thank you so much to everyone that responded. It's made me realise that it's probably a much bigger deal to me than it is to her. I haven't been married before, so I was scared she was clinging on to the photos in a bid to cling on to her ex. Your responses have made me see I'm being ridiculous.

My DP is an amazing person, and I really do not want to push her away by getting upset by something unreasonable.

I like a PP's suggestion of saving up for it together, thank you.