Snapchat for the unenlightened

[Joto369]

I posted a little while ago positively about the demise of my marriage - affairs and Internet dating sites were a big part of the reason. After a massive blow up at xmas we decided to separate but what I thought would be difficult but amicable is turning into anything but. Hubby is being petty (only buying his own food, refusing to use the car) and is now selling stuff online as he has no money (though curiously has a new laptop!) He is constantly twisting and blaming things on me. Though irritating the main issue is the sudden locking of the phone and appearance of snapchat. He's 45, rarely if ever used facebook (even if I tagged him in posts he didn't look) and doesn't have any friends to speak of so it's very odd but knowing his liking of Internet dating sites not a total shock. My question is how does it work - do you need to be friends to add people? He was on the phone yesterday and I noticed a woman had added him. It's a moot point really as we're done so for me it's just another tick in the unreasonable behaviour box but it doesn't mean it isn't upsetting.

You can add people by entering their username, if they are in your contacts, scanning their "snapcode"'or if they
Are nearby

So you have to know them or is it like when you search for friends in facebook?

It recommends people to add. These people are usually snapchat friends of people you have added.

Why are you bothered though? I seperated from exh in october. We lived together until i just couldnt take anymore shit and moved out in December.

It would never have occured to me to watch what he was doing with his phone or who he was talking to. Watching him and running these things over in your head is going to make things harder for you.

Maybe the simple fact he's doing it actually hurts whilst we are sat in what should have been a happy home and in a happy marriage - it's not always easy just to switch off emotions even if it is the best thing all round.

He's obviously checked out of the relationship and doesn't care or isn't aware that his actions are causing you pain. Your emotions won't get switched off but over time they'll change - disappointment, anger and perhaps dull down to indifference and acceptance that he's an arse.

Maybe he wants to use it for a cute filter? Think of him with doggy ears and a lopping tongue should give you an image to focus on and maybe laugh at how pathethic it all is.