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[Mumma1116]

Anyone else feel like me? I have no friends and partner doesnt spend alot of time with me :( its really starting to get to me.

I work full time, have 2 children. One in reception and one in nursery. I have had friends but lost contact through working, having children, distance. Nobody messages me to ask if im ok, if i would like a play date, if i want to go for a drink. Ive tried to contact and arrange but nothing ever comes about it. I feel forgotten about.

I literally have no one and at the grand age of 29 it is really getting me down.

My partner has friends, he goes to the pub, days out, his friends message him daily. So he doesnt understand but i feel jealous he has this and i dont.

Any tips on what i can do to get me out of this rut?

I've heard of an app (I think it's called Mush) which is a way of getting to know other mums in your area. I've never tried it but it may be worth a go. Or set up a thread on MN to see if there are any other local mums. You could chat online for a while and then, if you feel like you hit it off, arrange a meet up?

Or is there anyone at work you get on with? Go out for lunch with them or, if you work in a town/city centre perhaps ask if they want to wander round the shops with you? That's how I've made some of my friends.

Otherwise message your favourite old friends and ask them when they're free for a catch up. Don't stop chasing them until you've a date booked. DH can cancel whatever plans he has to look after the kids so you can go out.

What can you do to find friends? Are their colleagues you like that you can socialise with? Suggest payday drinks or birthday drinks for someone you like? Or even a lunch out with someone you participate get on with?
Any mums you know where you could have a mums night out or invite child and mum over. Might not be best friend but company and fun? There are mums of friends of my kids I cN always have cuppa with when we are doing a drop off for play date and one has become a proper friend.
Can you get in touch with old friends - especially those who have young kids who will understand how hard it is to keep up friendships with young kids - and try to reconnect?

My children have just moved schools ready to move house so still early days with the new mums. I work in a mainly male environment so hard to have mum friends there. Feels like the universe is against me for sure!

Im not a big drinker (i like to save my money) so i think this is my biggest issue about going out.

I did have the friends that i could have a cuppa with but as our eldests have gone to school they have gone back to work (ive always worked)

I think ill look up the app, failing that reach out a bit more and be more open

OP. I used to work in a mostly male environment (office based work) and found I made friends with lots of the PA's etc.
I'm also not a huge party animal and the idea of going out "for drinks" is not my thing. A sit down meal, however, and I'm there! You only need to go out once or twice to rebuild the bonds with your old friends or to make new ones, and after that it will be lots easier to pop round for a coffee/glass of wine in the evenings.

Good luck!!