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Help me with a message!

11 replies

Flairhead · 20/01/2018 00:26

I know it's late but thought some of you might like to help me out!

I posted the other day about a guy I kissed at Christmas and how I was hoping to avoid any awkwardness if we bump into each other. Anyway near the end of my shift tonight another colleague asked for help with something so I went to her desk, lo and behold he's sitting nearby, so I helped her out, chatted to her for a bit then also went and chatted to him. That was all fine, maybe a tiny bit of awkwardness at first but we got past it.

Then the colleague I came up to help offered me a lift home, since it's freezing and I live nearby. Turns out she's also giving this guy a lift home. We go and wait outside for her while she nips to the loo, chat again but Christmas doesn't get brought up, for reasons I won't go into we did decide to keep it between ourselves and there were a few people around. We get in the car, I get dropped off and that's it. This guy is now on leave for a week so I won't see him again for a while.

Now I kind of feel like messaging him saying something along the lines of 'well that wasn't as awkward as I thought it would be'. Or is that just pathetic? Anyone got any better ideas? Also toying with 'little bit disappointed I didn't get you all to myself earlier' but that seems cringey!

Please help!

OP posts:
CheapSausagesAndSpam · 20/01/2018 02:09

I wouldn't bother OP...if he was interested, he'd have messaged you or asked for your number by now.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 20/01/2018 02:12

I agree with Sausages sorry...

SD1978 · 20/01/2018 02:16

Leave it- Christmas snog m, move on. He could have tracked you down in the office by now if it was to go further- so it isn’t anything on his behalf. Don’t embarrass yourself. You’ve proved you’re both adults and are passed it, don’t make things awkward for your smelt by showing that you aren’t.

Olikingcharles · 20/01/2018 03:13

I agree with what the others have said. Just leave it alone. He knows where you are how to contact you if he wants to.

Sparrowlegs248 · 20/01/2018 03:25

If you decide to message, go ithe the first suggestion.

Desmondo2016 · 20/01/2018 03:26

The others are all right but where is the fun in that!!! I'd send a message. Probably not the one you suggested. Maybe 'nice to see you again, enjoy your time off '

trojanpony · 20/01/2018 08:51

Do not message him!
As others have said he isn’t interested
If you message him you are just inviting him to string you along

Flairhead · 20/01/2018 09:49

Well I did message him, just saying it was nice to see him and it wasn't as awkward as I thought it would be with a smiley face, he replied saying yeah, we're cool, and that the guy sitting next to him said "she likes you" after we'd been chatting at his desk.

Took the plunge and replied that he wasn't far off the mark and that I had been thinking about it.

Well long story short I didn't get flat out rejected, after all he did say he liked me on the night in question, but there are reasons it wouldn't be a good idea and so we've agreed just to let it be a good memory. If things change in the future, who knows, but there we are.

Glad I did it as I'd have just annoyed myself wondering otherwise, but thanks for all your advice everyone 😊

OP posts:
Faking · 20/01/2018 21:12

Good for you flairhead, that must've taken courage!

Flairhead · 20/01/2018 22:30

It was a bit scary as I've never told a guy I liked him before! I've spoken to a friend about it and she's told me it's circumstance, not lack of attraction, so who knows what'll happen in the future. At least I wasn't shot down in flames 😊

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NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 21/01/2018 00:37

Fair play to you that was brave

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