I'm leaving....

[girlplus]

After years of moods and tempers I've decided to leave...
I'm so scared but I know it's the right decision
4 years of it and I shouldn't have read the warning signs
I have a lo from previous relationship she's 6.5yrs
My boyfriend is abusing, rude, moody and I've always taken him back but this last week has gone from bad to worse and I can't live like this anymore
He's just screamed me at and got very aggressive, left me stranded and drove off in my car
I called the police and now he is fuming saying it's half his car
My name is on the v5 and I pay for it on finance
He is insured to drive it
He was saying he pays for food and my share of rent as he live together so it's half his
I know that's not true but at the mo I'm just plannng my way to leave
I'm due to see my mum this weekend so will stay with her and start looking for somewhere
I'm frightened as he is going to turn nasty - nastier

Well done on calling the police.
That is theft - pure and simple.
He's nasty but the sooner you get away the better.
He pays half the rent to live in the property.
It gives him no rights over YOUR CAR ffs!
He's deluded.
He's your boyfriend and not your DH so he has not rights over any of your assets!
Have some time away - get some headspace.
Plan your exit.

Your doing the right thing. Stay strong.

Yeah I think so.
I'm at my mums, having some prosecco and having a chat and trying to work out what to do

Ok so a night away and a bottle of prosecco with my mum lo
I've woken up feeling quite positive that I know I have to leave ASAP

I'm sad and feel let down as I still love him as when he is good he's all I've ever wanted in someone

But his bad side makes it impossible to stay this time
I've had promises after begging me back last time with promises of going to anger management and I've fell for it each time

I've promised myself I won't do this to myself anymore and the minute he starts with his abuse in 2018, that's it....it didn't take long and it's got worse. I don't want my lo growing up thinking that's how men behave

So I've been house hunting all night
I have the deposit and 1st months rent but lots of places say no housing benefit
I used to claim housing benefit and working tax credits before I moved in with my partner but that was years ago, I'm panicking
My friend says it doesn't matter as the money gets paid to you not the landlord but I don't want to be breaking my tenancy

Anyone offer any advice ?
Do I need to look for a private rent ? I remember when I looked for my sister no one accepted dss but I work - and I need the housing benefit part to be able to pay rent and bills

I can't up my hours at work as I'm lucky enough to work them round the school run