Borris update

[Borris]

Hello Everyone. I thought I'd update following on from the helpful and no holds barred advice I got before Christmas.

So I've been to see a solicitor. The way dh treats dd isn't bad enough to make him an unfit father. Even if neither me nor her agree with his methods.

Sadly she's advised me to stay put rather than move out and rent, unless my emotional health becomes too poor.

Also sadly I need to plan on divorcing here before thinking about a move back to my friends and family.

Next step is to arrange my work down to part time so I can be classed as a main or even primary carer and ideally to force dh into work.

So .... baby steps, but some progress and at least I know where I stand.

He's still sulky and miserable to live with. But thankfully is out tonight.

Been thinking about you Borris and just found this thread tonight. How are you doing, lovely? I can imagine you are feeling pretty trapped by that advice. Have you contacted Women's Aid at all? How is your FW being at the moment? Sending hugs and

Hi pony thanks for replying. I've had some better news. Yesterday I told my boss everything and he has been really supportive. I'm changing my hours so that I can collect dd 4 nights a week from school. I feel so positive about this. I will have a small pay cut but not as much as I thought.

I'm also leaning towards moving out into rented accommodation sooner rather than later. Even if it means the whole process takes longer I think I'll feel so much happier.

My H is much the same, overly critical, negative, sulky and undermining my parenting.

I'm trying to feel positive about living here for the foreseeable future. I'm think I'll prob make more friends without H holding me back.

That's great that you have support from your boss, and they will let you change your hours. I agree you will feel much happier in the longer term not staying in the house with him. It will just grind you down, it already is. If you can, do it, sooner rather than later.