I'm 50, he's 35.....

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I ended a 20 year relationship a few months ago and have been lucky enough to start a new relationship. The age difference though.......I'm fine with it and he says it doesn't bother him, but I feel like when we're out holding hands or something folk look at us and think he's out with his dear old Mum. Thoughts please?

I bet people stare at you because you're famous. Are these French restaurants you go to?

Are you sure it's the age difference? Could they be staring for another reason? I say this because I wouldn't bat An eye Lid but awhile ago I was out to lunch, and there was a couple at the next table, the man was a good twenty years younger than the woman.

The woman though was wearing the shortest tightest black jersey dress, which was totally backless and you could see the waist band of her tights pulled up high at thr back, she was probably mid fifties. I could see people looking at them, but I don't think it was the age difference so much, but I suspect her dress at lunch and what I assume was an attempt to dress younger/sexy that had back fired, making the age difference more apparent.

It was made worse by the fact he was in old jeans and a t shirt. Very incongruous, which I think is what caught everyone's attention.

It fits the so called rule " half you're age plus 7"! I three good friends. One is 48 dating a 26 year old. He totally adores her. Gave up a round the world trip to come back to her as he missed her so much.

Another is 49 and he is 32. He looks older she acts and looks younger. Again, Are great together. He had to go to hospital recently, the do tor asked if she was his mum. They both laughed.

Last one is 41, he boyfriend is 23. She's twin girls and had a shit first marriage an de they are really happy. They were friends for months first.

Anyway, who cares what's other people's think! Go own it! ✋

Could be loads of reasons that people stare. You could be very attractive and maybe that's why.

This is me
My DH is 34 I'm 48,
When we first met I worried about it a bit but just saw it as a bit of a fling after my marriage breakup.
Here I am 10 years later married with eight year old twins and can honestly say we never really think about it. No one has ever questioned it (apart from mil at the start ) and we don't give a flying fuck what other people think anyway.

Lucky you, go for it, ignore anyone else.

I don't think that an age gap of 15 years is relevant unless the younger party is in their very early twenties or younger. At 30, he's a grown man not a young adult funding his feet. Unless he's very stupid, he's aware that you probably won't have biological children together, and it obv doesn't bother him.

Who cares what passers-by think. They're irrelevant.

Who cares what people think, however just be aware, that you both have different life experiences and he may get bored being in his 30's.

I know it's different ages but I'm 24 and dp is soon to be 35 we have 1 dd together, people are always gobsmacked when I say his age because no one can ever tell &thinks he's my age... we don't notice until it gets brought up... If you're ok with it it's nothing to do with anyone else! X