I had an amazing partner this time last year, we were engaged. Had been together 3 years.
He had two children (I haven’t got any) and there was a lot going on with social services etc- it all came to a head and I left, didn’t think I could handle it and wasn’t sure I could marry him.
Selfish yes but I had so many questions going round in my head - do I really want this life? Do I want to have firsts with someone who hasn’t already had children?
I appreciate I knew he had children and shouldn’t have got involved but I’d never done it before and had no idea how it would be.
We’ve stayed good friends and he would like us to try again now that all is sorted his end... I just feel like I will never meet someone like him. He feels like “home”
I’m trying to weigh up what’s more important - searching for something I may never find or grabbing hold of someone who makes me feel special, loves me dearly and I know I’ll have a good long term relationship with.
Very dramatic but I feel very unsettled in life at the moment, like something is missing, like I should have achieved more by now - I can’t buy a house on my own so am stuck renting, can’t afford to travel or go on holiday. All my friends are settled down. I worry I’m looking to my ex for an easy way out of feeling like this?