Should he have told me ?

[coldday82]

Not getting on with my boyf at the mo
He's very down and low over recent job loss
He's taken a job he hates and he's not told me stuff over money in the past.
Lately I've just found out he's deposited £500 on bitcoin
I don't get bitcoin but he seems to however he always has been drawn to get rich quick ideas and nothings ever got him any money !

Hard work and saving with no secrecy is all I'm asking
Am I wrong to be upset he hasn't told me ?
We live together saving for a house so where's the line if he should of told me or not?
I think he should have - I wouldn't do anything where moneys left my account without telling him but I think that's down to respect but I'm on here to get your views peeps
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How did you find out? I agree generally larger purchases shld be discussed with your partner especially if you live together and it will affect your joint income. He sounds quite immature.

He told me, but only coz I asked
I was suspicious as he has been secretive with his phone then this am I asked him if he's doing anything other than job hunting etc not signing up to anymore schemes etc then he told me but only coz I kept asking
He's in his 40s

He's financially irresponsible.

That what you want in a partner?

No I don't, not at all
Just didn't know if I was being unreasonable

Was that meant as an investment or did he spend it?

He sounds immature and not on your wavelength.

Investment so it's not as though he's gone shopping on it
I get he wants to try boost our deposit but I'm angry at him for keeping it from me
As it's not the first time he has 'invested'

Sick of all the
Get rich quick schemes
Make a million next year
Seminars pod things on Facebook
Endless

I don't think it's immature
I feel for him as he's trying to clear a few credit cards and get some savings as I am
But this has really really thrown me

Um, didn’t you post about him a few days ago saying he’s and arsehole? And you eventually decided you’re going to dump him?

I don't get bitcoin but he seems to

If he just bought into bitcoin then no, he doesn’t get it.

That is immature. Throwing away money you don’t have in the vague hope of getting more is extremely immature. This is not an investment. He has absolutely nothing to show for that £500. Nor will he have.

If he just bought into bitcoin then no, he doesn’t get it.

He doesn't get investment in general.

Having said that, we bought our first home on what could be a high and prices still went up for another 3 years, so, who knows?

But Lweji, you would have had a home to show for it either way. He has nothing.

It would have been a nice little investment a good few years ago. Now, buying bitcoin is pointless.

If he wants to properly study crypto currency trends and buy a load of a new type for a low price, that might be worth a go, but with the absolute knowledge that he’s likely to lose his money. So he shouldn’t be using money he can’t afford to lose.

So YANBU.

I agree. I was just saying that we can't predict markets.

It depends, but if he has form for foolish get rich schemes and debt, then it's definitely not wise. It looks like £500 is a large chunk (all?) of his savings.

So, I wouldn't want to have such a partner. Too risky.

Totally agree with everyone
This is my first post about it ? It's only happened this morning

So what are you going to do?

Honestly, if he knew about bitcoin, he would know that it's on it's way out and there are far better cryptocurrencies to invest in. Since bitcoin is being talked about so much nowadays - don't you think everyone would be investing if it was going to be that easy to make money?

You can never stop people from doing things they want to do, so just ask yourself, do you want to be with someone who WANTS to invest £500 in something potentially non-lucrative when they don't have a lot of money and didn't speak to you about it first?

He is unlikely to change Op.

You will have to make a decision, to stay with him or not.

Do you want to live your life with a partner whom has 'pie in the sky' personality?

Definitely not
I was pretty sure the relationship wasn't working anyway and this has sealed it for me

It depends how your finances are arranged. If you both contribute to bills and savings, keeping money separate for personal spending, then no problem if he tells you or not.

If you are both meant to be saving, but separately, and he's used some of the savings for bitcoin, that's not so good.

He obviously knows it's dodgy, as he was secretive with his phone.

Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like he'll change.

So this wasn’t you talking about your “boyf” that you just moved in with to save for a house who’s between jobs and a miserable arse at the moment?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3138969-angry-at-life-boyf

Sounds very similar to my situation but no that wasn't mine

Then get your exit strategy in place and don't bother using energy in engaging with him over and above finishing this relationship.

He can beg, plead, make promises to his hearts content, but you are not obliged to listen to him.

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