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princesrules · 15/01/2018 22:54

Don't really no where to start but basically my partner just dragged me around the room by my neck again supposedly because I'm a lying manipulative bitch, no it's the first time to lay on hands on me and I know it won't be the last.

I've pretty much ran out of friends I can talk to out of sheer embarrassment my family live four hundred miles down south so I thought I'd vent on here.

Been together nearly 6 years he's always had a temper and suffers with depression, he's been threatening suicide regularly over the last few weeks and I've been worried sick about him, the more I've adjusted my behaviour to make him happier over the years the worse it gets if I step out of line, shout back, tell him no etc. I had him arrested for assault on September but didn't press charges but he came back a month later supposedly on medication and seeking counselling which never stuck.

If I tell him to leave he says he will in the heat of the moment but the next day when he realises he's got no where to go he'll get aggressive again and say things like id like to see you try and I literally will not leave. It's my name in the tenancy so I know I could get the police to remove him but that's a step that puts the fear of god into me for what will come after I've done it.

Not looking for an answer to my problems but maybe someone that's been through similar and to know there might be a light at the end of the tunnel...

OP posts:
Footle · 16/01/2018 20:09

Did you tell the police he threatened to set fire to the house? They would take that seriously.

Offred · 17/01/2018 09:12

You’ve been covering up for him with police and SS. This is a terrible idea.

In order to keep yourself safe it is vitally important that you tell them the whole truth now IMO.

princesrules · 17/01/2018 14:28

He's being arrested as we speak, he got back in the house n was there when I got home from work.

So I'm currently sat in the car by a field with the dog and little one.

Fuck my life !

OP posts:
ptumbi · 17/01/2018 15:33

Is he being charged, OP?
Please tell the police everything - threats, violence, abuse..and see iff you can get a NonMol asap.

princesrules · 17/01/2018 15:57

They are going to call me after they said it depends on if they have enough evidence as to whether he will charged or released without charge.

I drove back down the road as his parents were coming out of my house (they live 5 doors up) they scowled at me like I was a piece of shit and carried away on walking while my little one was calling nanny.

I feel awful and like the way only support network I had are now all going to hate me!

OP posts:
ptumbi · 17/01/2018 17:36

Op - if his parents are going to cut you off for his abuse then they are not people you should want as GPs for your child. Angry

Do you have any other support?

littletinyme1 · 17/01/2018 19:44

They need to blame someone. Obviously, it's not their vile abusive son who dragged you around the room. If it's his fault then they are to blame too as he is their son. Please decide you are going to disengage from all of these people. I would pack my kids and belongings into the car and drive as far away as i could. Whilst you are there someone can persuade you that being dragged around by the neck is not such a bad thing, and i bet this time he promises to really get help.

He is subjecting you to domestic violence and this us being witnessed by your children who will be damaged by it. He was told mot to go to your house and it meant nothing to him because he thinks you will let him do what he wants.

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