I have posted about my relationship before and received some great advice (predominantly get out!) and Im now at that point. I guess Im posting just to say to people in relationships that are not good, it may take a little time for you to realise its time to let go but it does happen! Together 4 years married 1.5 and in that short time hes had an affair with all the lies and deceit that come with that (including going back again even when I found out), internet dating sites (it was just to talk -whatever) and multiple strops, temper tantrums and a car crash he caused. Yet I am the one being blamed for it all because I say things in a way he doesnt like. Specifics are rarely given but the latest was because I made a joke about him making us a cup of tea at christmas and called him waiter - something thats a bit of a family joke. Apparently there were other undisclosed negative comments preceding this and this one was the last straw etc. After he packed his belongings because of this and spent the night in a travel lodge,I tried talking to him but instead of allowing his excuses and trying to fix it, for once I challenged them - why had he left it to fester when we had been to counselling and had agreed to talk as soon as issues arose; why was his reaction to something so small so out of proportion - what would he do if Id had an affair??! His answer is that I wont let what happened go and move on. Before I may have disagreed but not now. Acknowledging this is true, its OK for it to be true and actually I'm worth more than just settling for someone who treated me badly on more than one occasion was a huge thing for me. He thinks that because he has been OK for the last year that I should be eternally grateful and forgive him but I cant. I actually hate him for the impact this has had on my physical and emotional health and being around him is only prolonging it. And in all honesty he hasnt really changed has he!!!! If you are unhappy, there is absolutely a possibility you can turn it round but I really do think that sometimes too much water has gone under the bridge and hard as it is letting go is the only solution. It may be difficult for a while but Im looking forward positively :)