Wishing me dead?

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AIBU for being upset..when my on off partner (on for 5 years then on and off for 2) during a very heated argument says

• he wishes I was dead (said it about 4 times looking at me straight)
• he wishes death on me
• (hurt my leg) he hope I loose my leg
• he hopes guys fuck me and leave me

I know a lot of people say stuff in anger but is this normal?

He's not your true love, he's a spiteful cunt.
The apologies and promises are fake, when he comes to you full of them, then just remember how you felt when he said all those horrible things to you.

Please don't stay with him, he won't change

Leave him. Just do that. Start the rest of your life.

No idea what his background is, but he's got some weird thought processes going on there that you're best off away from. Sorry.

Usually intrubtonundertsand the situation but this guy is a right dog. What a shameless git to wish you basically get raped and left there. You deserve much more better. Leave this inhumane being

Leave the git

Fuck’s sake, he is hideous, leave him. This will never get better.

Do you honestly think that everyone has the potential to say this to their partner? Would you? Have you? I certainly haven't.

Even if you accepted his argument that you made him angry, then the logical step would be to break up so that he wasn't "forced" to say this any more.

I've just told him I want to part ways and listed how toxic our relationship was..he's obvs gone down the whole it's me with the problem I need to book a appt with my GP to get help..isn't taking me seriously..just making it overall harder

From your OP:

"my on off partner (on for 5 years then on and off for 2) during a very heated argument says

• he wishes I was dead (said it about 4 times looking at me straight)
• he wishes death on me
• (hurt my leg) he hope I loose my leg
• he hopes guys fuck me and leave me"

Honestly, you are not the one who needs the medical help.

And you don't need any reason to end it with him, other than you want to. Just do it safely. Do you need advice with that?

I've blocked him now and tbh after seeing the posts on here and the support it has made me understand I need to get through this once and for all now..I'm safe we're currently 1.5 hours drive from each other so it's more mentally being safe..He's shouted so much abuse at me in the past and I can't believe I did think it was okay at points for him to do that

Sounds good, do you think you'll stay away from him, and him from you?

This is just so horrible - normal people don't do this.

HE needs to go to his GP - but that's not your concern now. Do not unblock him. Join the NC thread

Keep strong

Remember you'll never find Mr right while you are with Mr wrong. Please don't go back to him. If you feel yourself weakening just read what you have wrote and how he made you feel when you posted it.

Glad you've found the strength to leave him OP.
I know all too well how it feels to have someone you love and who is meant to love you say they wish you dead etc... they are good for nothing, useless scumbags on this earth!
Good for you, move on, enjoy your life. You'll be surprised how happy you'll be just by not hearing his horrible words! X

It is tempting to try and fix things because he's all I've known for years and years. It is hard but I know when one door closes another one will open. A healthy relationship is made up of comprises and trust and wanting the best for each other..not what I've been in and I guess I will see that once I'm out of it..I've tried to move on within the two years but he's always given me false promises on changes and I believed it like a mug. I feel I'm ruining my life with my mind frame and need to see this as a positive - if anyone has any happy ending stories please let me know them 😩

Happy ending stories?

I got rid of my bastard and I'm much happier on my own. I've found my tolerance for bastardness has decreased substantially.

You can't be happy with someone who says he wishes you're dead. Regardless of when he said it.
Even if he didn't mean it, he did it to hurt you, and that's bad enough.

I hope you find the strength to leave any other bastards much sooner and not waste 5 years.

Even if it is ‘you’, no one has to stay in a relationship they don’t want to.

But, he sounds like an abusive dickhead and I’m glad you can put some real physical distance between you.

It's stupid that if I could see into the future and fix this I would stay because the time we were together we were happy it's been more the last two years broken up..my heart wants it my head knows it's not right

The positive side is that the earlier you get free and your brain starts to process things rationally again, the more time you will have in any future, positive situation, either alone without this shit or with a partner that doesn't do this shit.

I find out he went and contacted his ex who he got with during the 2 years we broke up. It was a few mins call but what a punch to the guts

And that was this morning ☹️

So why do you want someone who runs to his ex when he's not wishing death and amputation on you?

Honestly, let the ex have him. If you had a skip full of shit in your driveway would you be tying yourself in psychological knots trying to convince yourself you could love it into becoming Thorntons?

You've just seen into the future...