How do I respond to this?

[samthoams98]

Me and my ex broke up like two months ago we've had no contact whatsoever. She randomly text me a few hours ago asking if I had a few pieces of clothing she needed back when she knows I gave her all of her stuff in a bag. She said "was it in the bag you gave me" I really can't be bothered speaking to my ex as she caused me a lot of pain but I'm just wondering how should I approach it. The stuff she's asking for I'm more than sure I don't have and packed it up already. But if I do reply she'll just come out with the "ooooh you're such a di*k I just want my stuff" when I don't even have it.. Or maybe she's randomly trying to start a conversation with me? Who knows.

Any help?

Sounds like she's trying to open up lines of communication.

If you don't want to get back together or be friends don't respond. Just block

Definitely reply. Do the right thing. Explain that you don't have anything left at your place, and sign off. If a conversation develops and you don't want it, don't reply any more. If she kicks off, don't reply at all.

What do you think is behind her contact this time, does she want you back? Or to start something up again?

Definitely not haha. She rebounded pretty much after three weeks and ended up dating one of my pretty good friends haha. We was together for two years too. I don't think she wants anything to be honest because she wouldn't wait two months of NC would she?

What about ‘everything of yours went in the bag I gave you, nothing else left here’. That way you’re not quibbling about specific clothes as she could come back and say they’re not in the bag.

If you want to start a conversation with her you could add- hope you had a good new year or hope you’re well.

Just reply, I am absolutely sure all your stuff was bagged up. Nothing left here in anyway at all,everything gone. Goodbye.
And leave it at that.
No more replies.

Shut her down by being polite - then there really is nowhere for her to go with it.

'No, sorry but everything you left here was definitely in the bag. Hope you find your things, all the best.'

Super polite as if it's a stranger. Very clear message.

Nothing of yours here, hope you find it.

The end.

I think I'm gonna leave it for the time being. If she urently needs the stuff I guess she'll double text me. Other than that if she doesn't need the stuff back too bad she's obviously trying to just message me.

I don't want to start any conversation up with her. She didn't ask how I was or anything. Just a simple "Hi, Just wondering i can't find the white and black top, did you give it me back in the bag of clothes"

Do not apologise

just say everything of hers was given back, then block her.

And yeah she's trying to open communication. If there was anything that was really really important that she hadn't collected in 2 months she would have questioned it before

No apologies. Just state the facts and block

Just text back Nope everything of yours was in the bag I gave you then ignore anything else she might message.

I'm just not going to reply. If there is clothing here somewhere she should've messaged me long ago to get it sorted as I'm not making it my job to search for her things. She hasn't texted me again so I guess she won't try soon.