So this will be a very long story ..... and my spelling and grammar is poor to say the least !
So lets jump in so I broke up with my partner of nearly eight years, because he was very badly behaved the year before last he got someone pregnant when we broke up, which is fine we where not together (even though i thought she was a friend of mine) but the child is 2 months old and they where together on and off for seven weeks (Because he spent the whole time trying to get me back).
None of that is a issue the issue lies that she still tries to text him every day drunk texts him just normal stuff, but at 4 in the morning its obvious to try and get him talking or just texts him every day, about the child yes but about stuff that doesn't need talking about, to keep lines of communication open, which he just blanks her text instead of actually saying enough is enough he knows what shes doing and laughs daily that its not his fault everyone loves him. also instead of him planning to start having his child in the near future, he just goes and sees the child and her.
They make plans as if they they are part and parcel and he is not doing anything to separate his child and his ex, he was with her till 9pm at night the other night now I don't think that is on, a few hours a week fine shes the mother of his child but not 8 hours with his ex.... But I fully understand he needs to see his son and since this has all gone off, we found out I'm pregnant (all these hormones making me wonder if I'm being unreasonable) I will be giving birth in 5 weeks and he has now decided he does not want to be at the birth, hes made a excuse, that can be seen through from a mile away. He doesn't trust my mother to look after are children we already have, but then says he will wait till after I've given birth and get my mum to watch the children, so he can meet the baby... Because apparently the next day my mother wont be a danger (not that she is) and he has not got five weeks to make a plan to find someone, so he can be at his sons birth. Now he was at his first two sons births(my children with him), but not this other woman's I'm wondering why would he not want to be at this birth, if hes been at the rest (of my children's) unless I'm missing something and because he was not at hers I now have to give birth alone ?
I feel like I'm being taken for a ride hes got me pregnant so i cant leave, hes moved back in but gives me no money and didn't help with the kids at all (i was doing three trips to school a day at eight months pregnant while he sat on the pc all night and slept all day) till i told him I was going to dump him. we don't talk don't have sex hes only nice to me after hes done something wrong, like when he turned his phone off at 5 while he was with his ex (and child ) till 9 at night.
Am i being unreasonable? do i need to end this relationship? I really don't know, I spend most of the time crying so I'm obviously not happy, but after 8 years i just cant imagine being without him, I do love him.