I think my marriage is over

[Mumof4babies86]

My husband and i have been together 15 years but married 8 we have 4 children together but just lately I feel like it's over he has withdrew emotionally we don't sit next to each other anymore we don't cuddle or even hold hands and as for sex that is not existent too. He has been self medicating with alcohol and I am just so unhappy to the extent I fantasise about my life without him. We don't talk anymore just about mundane things. It's like we have nothing to say. It's just so turning physically and mentally he doesn't engage with anything anymore. Any inputs would be great fully recieved.

Doesn't seem as if these issues can't be sorted out with effort and counselling. I understand this is difficult with four kids.
Would couples counselling, such as Relate, help?

Is the alcohol self-medicating due to stress and/or unhappiness? Or other things?

Would you say he's an alcoholic?
Does he drink every day/evening?
If so how much?
This is no life for you though.
But there are 4 DC involved so some effort might be worth it.
Would he agree to counselling?
You could start with that and see if that helps at all.