We all moan about MIL.... well I don’t have one just a FIL..... (from hell!)
So long story short DH and I have 3DCs, sold out house and living with FIL for 4 months why we wait for our house to be completed ... 3 months down 1 to go, if we could of rented we would of!
So my DH does freeance/self employed work that’s mainly gained by word of mouth.... so family behaviour etc are important!
So FIL very kindly helping us out I really shouldn’t moan, we are really grateful.... but the man is getting on my nerves!!
So he is very aggressive and opinionated and his behaviour is getting worse (no I don’t think he is ill) he has always had a hold over DH and controlling.
He goes with DH to work, DH said that he has always been god to him and worked a day maybe two a week with him. Which is fine they spend some time together and I don’t have to see the man!
Recently last year he has said he doesn’t care anymore what people think and he will say what he thinks to people..... so far he has lost DH 3 jobs that I know of and maybe more. Now DH can’t see it, since we have been back with FIL he has been brainwashing him, repeats the same thing over and over and tells him everyday that the people he works for are using him, they don’t care about him, they are all there to take what they can from him, going to screw him over and take his designs and use them when they drop him. Everyone is is using him (prob even me!)
DH can’t see it, I have tried politely to tell DH and I can see DH regressing backwards like he was when we first met - sad, depressed and lost his self confidence. FIL said to one client whilst they were working the other day - “your just a suck up arsehole who is out to get what you can”
Now I don’t know what to do as I try so hard not to say anything and we hopefully only have 30 days left living with him.... I can hope... but the damage is done and now DH is back under is control - how can I get DH to see his dad is a massive dick - he won’t have a bad word said about him.....
I have tried to say over the last few years to FIL that his bahaviour effect DHs work and that he should try to keep his opinions to himself for the sake of his son.... but each time he said I couldn’t careless but won’t let his so hear that.
Sorry I think I just needed to vent abit!