Seven year itch?

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I am falling further out of love with my husband on a daily basis. I have booked us a session with a Relate councillor but I honestly don't know if I can be bothered to go. The beginning of the end came a few years back when I was sick of the way we talk to eachother. It's hardly improved, I find him unsupportive and our underwhelming sex life has taken its toll. His smile has been replaced by daily criticism. Despite already being more like companions than lovers, I felt so lucky on our wedding day, I thought we would work through anything.
Depression has been a fixture in our lives that we have both had, but generally I have been more needy than him due to a traumatic past. I don't feel special or fancied by him.
I don't feel like there is anyone I could talk to in real life. I am so sad. Any ideas?

IME once the feelings have gone, they've gone.

Go to your relate session.
You have nothing to loose.
Does DH know you feel as bad as this? Do you talk to each other? Lack of communication is a big factor in marriage breakdowns.

Also, do you have an6 children to consider.
If not then this will maybe make you less likely to want to stay.
You have invested time and love in this man and it’s worth one last shot.
But if there’s no hope then don’t drag it out. My friend wasted ten YEARS of her life doing that which she bitterly regrets now.
Whatever happens, good luck. Lots of luck. It’s a hard life isn’t it.

I’ve found raising two children with Sen with my dh has pretty much ruined our relationship as I feel like he’s been completely unsupportive. Once the feelings have gone I don’t know how you get them back without a lot of work.

Thank you for replying.
We had a big chat last night. Again. He feels like I have moved the goalposts because it's not that long since the last time I said something! Things have changed, I guess that I wanted things to be way better. I am a perfectionist in real life so I am aware that I have high standards. I feel sad that when I read the 'Would you marry your husband now thread' it threw up the reality of the dull rut that we have become.
I would like children but I feel like it's a commitment to him that would trap me in a relationship that is hurtful and not always helpful.

I would consider a split to be honest. No children to tie you you could make a fresh start

I'd move on now, theres no point being stuck with him.
Just tell him thats it and see a solicitor to help sort things out. I certainly wouldnt be thinking of having children with him.

If you don't have children this makes your exit easier to plan. Every relationship takes work, but you sound unhappy.

The session with Relate went well. We have both made a new level of effort. Time will tell if it's a fad which could easily wear off. It does not help that I'm feeling broody and that I am the wrong side of 40 :( If only I had a crystal ball.

Glad to hear your session with relate went well. You can only try and see how it goes.

Google John Gottman, author go check out his credentials. I wish I'd have read his book(s) before my marriage failed.