I'm still getting over Xmas which as usual included my extremely needy mother in law.
My brother and sister are both the kind of people who can't stand being on their own in their flats. They get themselves into relationships with people they don't really love just because they can't bear to be alone and 'unoccupied'. Then they have to dump these people and there's even more drama and tears. Their behaviour is selfish and I tell them so. They don't care, they just need to spend their evenings after work with someone they can talk to and have sex with. I think their behaviour verges on the sociopathic.
I relish my alone time. I love a silent flat.
Then I have 2 friends who don't know each other who both came out of a long term relationships exactly 2 years ago. I was there for both of them when the break ups happened even though we were out of touch for many years. I helped one move home, clear out relationship clutter, held her while she cried for hours looking at items they'd bought together etc etc. Yet now 2 years on they still both want to talk to me for hours on end about what went wrong. I lost my patience with one friend when I told her that we had already discussed said bloke and said incident for many many hours.
I regularly get texts from brother, sister and these 2 friends where they basically write 'tell me something that will cheer me up' to 'I'm feeling very down can I come over' etc I have 2 jobs and hardly any time to myself and i need alone time to recalibrate. Doesn't anyone else?
When I got dumped by my fiance (we'd been together for 10 years) I was in so much emotional pain that I thought I would have a nervous breakdown. I didn't tell a soul about the depths of my depression, except once I cried for 1/2 an hour during a lunch break when I told a friend about the break up over a latte. I grieved alone and in silence. I had no need to talk about it for hours. What good would it have done? Relationship is over. No amount of chatting will bring it back nor heal the pain. I eventually moved on after 2 years of involuntary celibacy. I didn't join dating sites nor feel the need to see a different friend every night of the week.
Why are there people who need to analyse everything with you? After having a 2 hour phone chat with one friend (about her break up again) I finally managed to say that I needed to go (my ear was burning!) and she said 'When can I come over so we can sit on the couch for a few hours and talk properly about this?' WTFFF!!