Im really going you can give me some advice. Im in a dilemma i feel I've been in for years now and don't know how what else to do...
Im a 36 year old dad and me and my partner have been together for nearly 14 years. We have 2 beautiful children, a 12 year old girl and 11 year old boy.
For years weve been going through the motions and i know that relationships are never easy but there should be sombre happy times.
We got of to a very rocky start but she fell pregnant with our first child and we made it work, shortly after or second child came along and then time just seems to pass us by.
We've never felt like we are on a relationship. If I'm honest i don't know if we even enjoy each other's company when were on our own. It feel more like a partnership to bring out kids up.
We probably only make love 2 or 3 times a year.
Weve always spoken about marriage but never done it, if we really wanted to i would have thought we'd have found a way by now.
If im really honest I'm just not happy and feel pretty lonely, it's only a busy life style and the kids that stop me thinking about it all the time but as they get older it feels like it's s bigger issue to me.
I can tell my partners not happy either and we both talk about change but noyhing ever does.
Neither of us want to separate, we've both come from families where or patents are still together and wanted that for it children but I'm starting to think that the kids setting this type of relationship is only going to be detrimental to them.
I really don't know whether its time to say let's find some happiness separately or if not what on earth we can do to put the last 13 years of just getting by, not having a relationship and our mundane distance behind us and actually have a relationship.
HELP PLEASE AS I JUST CAN'T KEEP GONG IN THIS WAY ANY MORE.