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Cheats

48 replies

Lfh40 · 09/01/2018 17:45

I'm looking for advice please. If a person cheats with someone whilst married and thee other person they cheat with is single but is fully aware that the other person is married . Is it just the married person who's at fault.

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Lfh40 · 24/01/2018 11:22

Apparently now I should apologise for getting arse on ?

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Offred · 24/01/2018 11:55

Generally if you ‘get the arse on’ it warrants an apology yes. It’s ridiculously childish behaviour. Adults communicate and resolve. Small children strop.

I don’t understand what you are talking about TBH.

People can’t offer advice to you because you keep posting random complaints with no background or information that are seemingly completely unconnected to the subject you posted about.

hellsbellsmelons · 24/01/2018 12:13

Well you can go to bed if you like.
You don't have to go together.
What are you doing until 1-2am anyway?

SandyY2K · 24/01/2018 13:10

You're confusing me OP. Jumping from one topic to another.

TheDrinksAreOnMe · 24/01/2018 13:52

WTF are you on about OP.

In answer to your first question, hell yes both are to blame in some way.

People should look out for each other - women should look out for the sisterhood big time in my opinion , and theres not enough of that

Thebluedog · 24/01/2018 15:20

I might be unpopular here but I think that the single party isn’t the one cheating. Morally it’s wrong, but actually, the only person cheating is the married or attached one.

Lfh40 · 24/01/2018 18:09

Yes but I wasn't having thee afair on my own it takes to to tango she new I was married just as much as I did so how can it be all down to one

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BetterEatCheese · 24/01/2018 18:15

Both. My mum had a relationship with a married man and I as convinced he was going to leave his wife when he had no intention. They were firmly together and she was as much at fault as him

Halebeke425 · 24/01/2018 18:22

?

The married party is the one at fault as they made the vows but ultimately what does it matter now, you're apparently separated and in a relationship with the other woman so why even bring it up? You sound very childish

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Livelovebehappy · 24/01/2018 21:45

Most people will say the married one is to blame as they are the one who is betraying someone else. But I think the blame equally lies with the single person, who is well aware their lover is married but chooses to ignore that. The majority of us would run a mile rather than take up with someone married, but unfortunately there are some who just don’t care.

Offred · 24/01/2018 23:51

🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

So you are with the OW and have discovered the grass is not greener and that she is just as boring and annoying to live with as your wife was so now you are on here trying to get ammunition re what a bad person she is for sleeping with you when you were married/not going to bed at the time you want her to/expecting you to not behave like a child/expecting you apologise for behaving like a child.... THAT is how all this random brain farting is connected.

My 8 year olds are more mature than you TBH...

Honestly, the problem is you. You cheated, you are choosing not to go to bed at the time you want, you are behaving like a big baby when you argue, you lack the necessary skills for adult relationships...

Just grow up FFS...

Lfh40 · 25/01/2018 00:04

Sorry didn't realise you new my wife . Who said she was boring to live with have you never heard of people falling out of love or a relationship running it's couse obviously not maybe you should take advice from your 8 year old clearly they no more than you . When have I said my partner is boring or mentioned the grass being greener for your information my wife was only angry because I didn't move out of the family home before I met thee ow as she'd asked. Me and thee ow are generally happy it's just a few things that I was asking advice on obviously something you can't seem to do rather judge and put things in your own word's maybe you should work for the government. There good at that to . Thanks again

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Offred · 25/01/2018 00:31

Grow. Up.

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Biscuit
ferando81 · 25/01/2018 01:25

The married one .A single person will justify it to themselves by saying if it wasn't me it would be someone else -which is probably true.

stopbeingadramallama · 25/01/2018 01:42

I don't understand any of this but it's made me smile😀

GirlDownUnder · 25/01/2018 02:48

Biscuit but not worth the Brew 3/10 thanks for playing

TossDaily · 25/01/2018 07:12

Anyone else reading the OP's messages and hearing Vicky Pollard?

Offred · 25/01/2018 07:21

Ha ha ha ha ha! I am NOW! Grin

Lfh40 · 28/01/2018 21:27

Clearly this place is full of judgmental inbreads who have 3 brain cells between them . To the ones who could be bothered to at least try giving advice thank you. Clearly thee others are people who don't know how to respect others and must be so perfect in there perfect world. Or maybe it's cos there not taking there medication. Absolutely pmsl .

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Offred · 28/01/2018 21:43
Grin

Vicky Pollard...

stopbeingadramallama · 28/01/2018 21:50

🤔😂😂😂

starzig · 28/01/2018 21:50

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