My Friend never asks about my life or me

[ChasingWaterfalls]

Hi, I'm new here.

I have been friends with my friend for around 17 years. We met when our eldest were babies. She was a SAHM and I worked part time at the same place I work now, still part time. We did everything together, days out, holidays, kids went through school together etc.

Anyway she started working full time around 7 years ago and since then she has completely changed. Whenever I see her she talks about all the people at work (who I don't know) yet when I mention my work she shows very little interest. If I see other friends she gets very jealous and will put a picture on facebook of her and someone from work saying that they are besties! Recently I had another friend round at my house and she popped in, honestly you could've cut the atmosphere with a knife. my other friend even asked if she was always so off with me.

When we went on holiday she never asked about it or if we'd had a nice time yet when they go i get sent messages and pictures telling me how amazing the place is.

If we ever go out anywhere i have to suggest it and organise it.

Recently we decorated our living room and got a new sofa etc. She never even acknowledged it when she saw it yet when she decorated her house i got a guided tour and run down of how much everything cost her.

Whatever I or my family seem to do she seems have show absolutely no interest in or will say something negative about it. Even down to the Chinese we got our takeaway from - apparently she got food poisoning from there!

Why would someone be like this? We were such good friends but i sometimes wonder why i bother anymore.

Thanks for reading.

Your friendship has run its course. She's selfish and jealous and not a good friend to you. Time to back away from her.

It is hard to admit that a friendship has run out of things to do. Why waste anymore time on someone who is not as invested in your relationship as you are?
Don't feel guilty about not wanting to spend time with this person. There has to be a mutual benefit in terms of common interest and a level of respect. If she hasn't the time to find out about your life I think that is disrespectful really. You are nothing more than a sounding board.
Just let it slide and you can fill you time with something else more satisfying. It is the adult thing to do

Self importance, self-centeredness, immaturity and lack of manners. She thinks she and her life is better and more important.
Others only serve a purpose to her which is whatever she might need at that specific time. If you don't serve a purpose to her then she'll drop you.

Or jealousy. She is jealous of you, and cannot handle your happiness, your lovely family, your well-balanced life... You have got whatever she wants for herself and therefore she cannot bear someone else having her idea of happy contented life.

In either scensrio, it's time to drop her. It'll make her even more unhappy but definitely will make your life better.

Hi, your 'friend' seems very competitive, resentful, jealous and insecure as well as having no manners or interest in you and your life. Your friendship doesn't seem mutual but too one sided. She is intimidated by you...your pleasant, well balanced nature and your activities and the fact people like you enough to want you as a friend. [She is not the only person in the world, though she would like you to herself]. So she is not a friend. It's all about her and so she is also selfish.

In view of her whole attitude the friendship can't work and should not continue. People change, lives go in other directions. Why would you want to continue putting effort into her when she puts you down at every opportunity? It isn't doing your self respect and self esteem any good. You are worth better and don't deserve her warped bitterness. Leave her to spout vitriol on others and/or sort herself out.

Ah don't worry.
The friendship has gone off.
Nobody is really to blame. Dont let it trouble you.
Remember the good times but let her go.
It will upset you to keep banging your head against a brick wall.

She sounds jealous to me and that the friendship may have run its course.

Thank you for your replies. I had a feeling she might be jealous but I have no idea why she would feel that way. The only thing I can think is that I have a very close knit family and there has been quite a lot of trouble in hers. The only thing she seems to ask me about is my sisters divorce which has been quite nasty.

I think the reason I have let the friendship carry on is that I only have a few female friends. I work in an office with a lot of men so it is nice to have a girly chat now and again. I would love to make new friends but I am very shy and probably don't come across great to new people.

Maybe our friendship has ran it's course, just makes me feel sad when we used to be so close but then again I get wound up about some of things she says to belittle me. Even my height - I am only 5'1 and she is 5'3 but she goes on like she is a giant compared to me lol!!