Our marriage has been rocky for at least a year. I've suggested counselling and he said 'no, it's a waste of money'. I've tried telling him I feel lonely and left out of things and he says I need to make plans to see friends and DO stuff on my own. I DO do stuff on my own but it feels like i do everything on my own. What's the point of my marriage if I do everything alone? I mostly eat alone. I wake up alone. He's decided to send me to Coventry because I said that he does not pull his weight in the house and he didn't like that. I food shop alone. I cook alone. I wash up alone. I go to college alone. I work full time. He works shifts and a lot of weekends. He does not make plans with me or anyone else from what I can tell. His work friend is in a relationship with a woman who has become a friend of mine. She sometimes asks me if my DH is going out with her OH on a particular night and I have to say I don't know (because my DH does not tell me anything). My DH is sulking beyond normal sulking. Tis ihas been happening for 5 days now. He shuts himself in the lounge with the door firmly closed. He does not visit the kitchen to get food or drink. He keeps a glass of water on the table next to the sofa and watches TV til all hours. He seems to be eating biscuits and crisps and occasionally makes a cup of tea if I am out. He stays out after his work shift ends and I'm confident he is visiting his DM who is housebound. If I were to ask him when he has been he'd likely say he's been at his mother's. I try to talk face to face and he shuts me down. I resort to texting him if he is out of the house and he ignores the texts. Is the problem ME or does HE have the problem? Sorry for rambling.