DH sending my daughter's pix to x

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Me and hubs are 9yrs married,he has got an x who cheated on him before meeting me.That X gf begged on her knees to win hubs back even when he is already married,one day i found out that they are still in touch and have read on the x emails that she is still longing for my hubs,at one part my hubs mentioned to her that i am not a good mom unlike her (she has a son from her previous marriage-she is a divorcee btw).When I read that it hit me hard and we fought about it.i told my dh to go back to her and ill be fine.

Last night while otw to the restaurant someone was calling twice and dh was cancelling the call and he said it is her mother calling,i said why dont you answer your phone?then, when we were already at the restaurant i went to the toilet and passed by his back and saw him looking at our daughters picture and i was like "she is sooo cute there,blah blah and told him to send it to me" he was like "yeah ok go back to ur seat ill send it to you" but i didnt leave behind him,(cuz it seemed like a facebook messenger app,one tap and name is going to appear)he was insisting on me to go back to my seat and i didnt VOILA!its X name that pop out on the screen,i just didnt know if he knows that ive seen it but definitely it changed my mood.

Now, this morning I am thinking on how to ask him a question.

"Why are you sending my daughters picture to your X?"

Ist even justifiable? 🤭🙁

He’s having an emotional affair with her at the very least. He’s betraying you and totally disregarding your feelings about it. I’d be deeply hurt by this. My ex did this with a work colleague. I didn’t leave him, I should have though. What you do now is your decision. Sorry you’re hurt

After he said you were a bad mum and she was better than you ... that would have been the end for me.

Ive let it pass again for the nth time. The last time we fought about it he threathened me with separation I told him im ok with it but that same night he hugged me tight and didnt let me go. His emotions towards me is quite confusing to be honest. I dont really know my purpose in his life.

Once ive asked hin if he love me his answer was "i need you" and "i am sorry I cant give you what you are asking"

I think ill be fine if we separate, i have got my self ready for the worst since the last time we fought becuz of that X he couldnt let go. And i think I pretty made it clear to my DH that i am ready to anything. I just dont want to make the first move and regret it.

At one point I was already to ask him if he is fine with open relationship id be fine with it either, I just dont know how tell him.

We are never husband and wife,our relationship for me is just like flatmatea who share a kid and a house,he helped me a lot with my career not to mention,he is a good person, he supported me all the way but there is no relationship between us.

I just want a clear kind of relationship if he wants it, i am very flexible. But i just want to hear it from his mouth and ill be fine.

I am already 37 yrs old this year, ive gone thru a lot of hellish relationship and ive pulled thru pretty well.

You haven't pulled through it well enough, I'm sorry to say

Because you're prepared to stay with a man who treats you like shit - how dare he call you a bad mother to his ex?!! - who is almost or actually cheating on you - and you're even prepared to give him a free pass to go and fuck her. Like hell do you actually want an open relationship.

Get rid of him.