Pregnant and emotional....over reacting? No idea

[bitzy12]

I'm 5+4 weeks pregnant.....so this is kind of pregnancy related but anyway.....

This morning dh got a message from his hairdresser who is also his friend. She was asking him when he could do some work in her barbers shop. Dh replies and asked when she wanted it doing. She put 3 xxx on the end of her message. He put 2 xx on the end of his message back to her.

Now there is nothing going on with them at all but I didn't like the fact he put 2 xx on the end. I asked him why he did it, we were laid in bed, he wasn't trying to hide it from me at all. He said she's just a friend and he always puts xx on messages to her. They hardly ever message but he just messages her on the day he's going to the barbers to see how busy she is etc.

Anyway I said, I didn't like it, I would never put any xx on any messages to any male friends because I don't think it's appropriate and I wouldn't want to anyway.

He apologised and that was that.

But since then she's replied with 3 xxx and he's still replied with 2 xx. He's going tomorrow after work to do it for her. I do trust him, I know there's 100% nothing going on. At all. He's so loving towards me etc, only has eyes for me and I know that. I'm even friends with her on fb too. But I'm just not happy about this one bit.

I sound absolutely daft writing this but I'm in floods of tears and I'm guessing it's my hormones. I'm so worried I'm going to miscarry as I've had no pregnancy symptoms what so ever - apart from being an emotional wreck - and I miscarried last year and this just feels exactly the same.

Am I just being an over reactive pregnant lady? I'm not even dressed yet. All I want to do is cry today.

You are being a bit unreasonable but I think hormones do that! I have a friend who puts the same amount of kisses back as the person who texts regardless of how many they are-think it must be a subconscious thing. Outside of Mumsnet, I pretty much use kisses like punctuation! It seems unfair to tell him to text only in a way you like when you know nothing is going on.

Re miscarriage worries, start a post in pregnancy maybe as it’s such a common early worry

You are massively over reacting I'm afraid.

The good old over analytical kiss-ometer! Forget it. Different people in my life get different amounts of kisses regardless of who they are or how much I care about them. DH is always 3, my boys 2, my daughter about 7, one brother in law 2, the other brother in law 0 my dad 0 and the person I don't know who I sold some babyclothes to last week got 1. Random and meaningless.

I think that the fact you spoke to him about it and he knows it upset you, and yet still sends xx is hurtful.

Massively overreacting...but pregnancy does that to us!

I know it's just my hormones, usually I wouldn't say anything to be honest but I still wouldn't put any xx to any other men apart from ones in my family.

Anyway I'm glad everyone's said I'm over reacting, I haven't shouted at him or gone in a mood with him or anything and I don't plan on it.

I'm just one tired emotional wreck and needed everyone to say I'm over reacting. Though I am slightly pissed off he's replied with the xx even when I said I was upset....he's emptied the dishwasher and wiped the side down so clearly he knows it upset me lol x

What jumps out at me is your pregnancy fears. Please go to your doctor so they can reassure you that all is fine. The anxiety must be awful so get checked to pit your mind at rest so you can relax for the test of your pregnancy.

Thingsdogetbetter - I might ring my drs tomorrow, I have 2 dcs already and with both pregnancies I suffered with hyperemisis which put me in hospital throughout my pregnancies from very early on. I just couldn't stop being sick and became severely dehydrated.

My last pregnancy last year, no symptoms, no nothing and miscarried.

This one is the same, apart from obviously very emotional and tired I feel fine. I don't know how I'll cope with another miscarriage to be honest. Like I say, I'm only 5 and a half weeks so still so early. But already with I'd be extremely sickly by now. I know every pregnancy is different, maybe the fact that I'm massively over sensitive at everything is a good sign x