Will this work or will DH think I am a loon?

[TheABC]

DD is finally dropping her night feeds and going to bed at a decent hour. As a result my battered libido has come back and I would like to reconnect romantically with DH - its been a tough couple of years with young children and no family nearby to help.

My plan was to do some date nights at home complete with text flirting in the daytime, restaurant style meal, laid table, music, candles etc, once the kids are in bed. We really can't afford a real night out but I am worried the domestic setting would feel wrong. Has anyone else done this? Did it work?

My husband and I did exactly this about a year ago - we had got into a bit of a rut and with a young child couldn't afford to go out loads.

We went out whilst we could be had date nights in and it was really good. We chatted and connected and it was very helpful.

DS2 is due in 6 weeks...

Thanks, Merryoldgoat. Ok, I will give it go!

Sounds like a good idea.

You can honestly forget what it's like to be a couple and anything that reminds you is good.

We had a late breakfast the other morning as DH was off work and our DS was back at school. We did our shop and went to a cafe. We just chatted shit for about 2 hours. It was great - the kind of conversation we don't have when DS is there because he wants to talk cars, or volcanoes or magnets or some other random thing. It was really nice. You feel closer afterwards.

Good luck and enjoy

Date nights at home are great imo! Enjoy 🙂

Date nights at home at great. You can have the heating as you want it and not que for the bathroom.

We do this once a week. It means I do a dinner or he brings something home the kids are either in bed or sent upstairs on their devices and we have the evening and the tv, shock horror to ourselves and we watch a film on the sofa.
I don't know if it has helped but it hasn't hurt anything.

I would make sure he does the set up, food providing every so often though op as i got a bit resentful that he wasn't putting in the effort and it felt like yet another thing i had to do for someone else.