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Marriage Help

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ConfusedH · 07/01/2018 10:30

Hello,

I just wanted to post and ask for your input on my relationship situation. I feel that my childhood sweetheart and I have grown apart and it is tearing me apart. We are married for 6 years and don't have any kids. A couple of years ago my wife said that she doesn't want kids (at least not then) and now she is saying that she doesn't want them at all (for the past year or so). We still love each other to bits and I can't imagine that we aren't together. We love each other's company. We are 30 years old and I feel that we should start thinking about kids. We had a few very frank conversations and the summary is: she doesn't want to be a mum, and if I want kids then we have to get a divorce (she didn't say that but suggested that we would be apart). I will feel very guilty if I leave her as she has put her very promising career on hold to travel with me to another country and progress my career (over 5 years ago now). I am the one in employment (and getting a very decent salary because she put everything down to join me).
What should I do?
Help

OP posts:
BattleCuntGalactica · 07/01/2018 10:50

This kind of things ends marriages I'm afraid. You can't make her want kids. You either have to accept that she doesn't want them and stay with her, or leave if you can't imagine life without any.

fantasmasgoria1 · 07/01/2018 11:04

What battle said. Even if she relented and had a child because you wanted one she may end up resenting you. You may then end up being a single dad! You need to probably have another conversation lay each other’s cards out and split if you cannot see a life without kids.

BackInTheRoom · 07/01/2018 13:57

Incidentally, while you're the main wage earner, what does she do all day? I mean most wives would be SAHM with kids but she hasn't got any?

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