ideas to show my man he's the greatest

[lucyellensmum]

we have had a really shit couple of years since dd born (co-incidence) we have been in dire financial straits and my father died and i had PND. We nearly called it a day on our relationship as all the shit got in the way of how we felt.

Well we are still together and he is such a wonderful father to his little girl who adores him. He works so hard and we really struggle so that i can stay at home with DD. He is so tired and i know he is still stressing about the money situation. Yes, i do feel guilty about not working but i only want to stay home another year with my little girl, until she is more independent. She is 20m now.

I've no money, and little time when im not exhausted so does anyone have any original idea of something i can do for my DP to give him a lift and let him know i love him (ive thought of cooking a meal etc, but we do that every nigbht lol) something quirky but im at a loss.

How about getting a babysitter for an hour or two, packing up a lovely picnic, taking him somewhere nice for the picnic, then seducing the pants of him?
Failing that, a four pack of beers and a striptease would also probably be quite popular.

how about a picnic in a park/countryside, it's supposed to be a lovely weekend.

Ah what a lovely idea!

Picnic sounds great! Stripteaste sounds great too lol!

For our anniversary (also skint), I gave my dp a balloon on which I'd drawn hearts and also "put the stereo on, track 1" I put a really slushy song on there waiting for him I also wrote him a poem about how much he meant to me etc. It went down a storm.

I'd have loved to have taken him for a picnic too but the weather was vile.

Good luck! X

Men always appreciate a little "you know what" lol.

Have you thought about looking for a part time job? Just an idea to ease a little from both of you.

I'm lucky as I found work 4.30-8am, DP goes out to work at 8.30-5pm, so while we're tired in the week, finacially it takes the pressure off him a little. It makes weekends a little more special as it's our only real quality time. Although I'm tired by 8pm week nights.

Other than that I think just talking, and being close is enough for most relationships

BJ

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Also second BJ

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Oh yes....way to a man's heart

LOL, I know how you feel Lucyellensmum, I'll be returning to p/t work sooner than planned for similar reasons (DS would be about 2y9m though).
I find switching off the telly and doing something else together always leads to a great night in. Last month I had to collate hundreds of little cut-out bits of paper into packs for pre-school and we spent an evening at the kitchen table playing cds and talking as we worked, with a bottle of wine natch - he said it was the best night he'd had in ages. Whenever I convince him to play cards too we have a good night, wish he'd play scrabble or something though (I always beat him.) One day I might let him attempt to teach me chess...
HTH

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All great suggestions, The BJs good - only takes two minutes

Why don't you write him a private letter telling him how much you appreciate everything he has done/is?

Give him a bj and swallow.

Expat its not christmas or his birthday fgs

Where do you live? Do you live near any countryside/sea/loverly park? Do you have a car?

Can you get your 16 YO to baysit for a couple of hours?

How about, either a nice simple picnic, or some soup/crusty bread in a flask, and a walk in the woods/beach/through local park. And, if there is anywhere discrete around...

not original I know but...

I 3rd or 4th the bj...What else does a man really want???

3rd or 4th bj - hell the man isn't a bloody saint you know....

Havnt read whole thread but you could call your local radio station and dedicate a song for him? and add a little message? You can email the radio staions these days and they can send a little message out! Just amke sure he is listening!

All this stuff requires way more time and effort than a good BJ.

hmmmm, well i have just cleaned the car, its all shiny now - IF he notices and lavishes me with praise, If!!! then he can have the BJ!

give him a 15- minute fix as recommended in 'baby proof your relationship' - great for stress relief